Thursday, January 6th, 2011
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Our Desperate, 250-Year-Long Search for a Gender-Neutral Pronoun

All of a sudden Supreme Court judge Antonin Scalia decided to revive the crazymaking debate regarding the Fourteenth Amendment's protection for women—or, apparently, lack thereof. Here is what Justice Scalia told California Lawyer: "Certainly the Constitution does not require discrimination on the basis of sex. The only issue is whether it prohibits it. It doesn't…. If the current society wants to outlaw discrimination by sex, hey we have things called legislatures, and they enact things called laws. You don't need a constitution to keep things up-to-date. All you need is a legislature and a ballot box. You don't like the death penalty anymore, that's fine. You want a right to abortion? There's nothing in the Constitution about that. But that doesn't mean you cannot prohibit it. Persuade your fellow citizens it's a good idea and pass a law. That's what democracy is all about. It's not about nine superannuated judges who have been there too long, imposing these demands on society." That is pretty rich. I guess he thinks that these superannuated judges only get to haul in the Equal Protection Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment when it benefits the likes of George W. Bush.

Okay, so it is true that the authors of the Fourteenth Amendment took pains to ensure that women were excluded from its protection, by introducing the word "male" into the constitution for the first time. But. Oh, god! There were substantial problems with the original text of the Fourteenth Amendment. And ever since the Supreme Court case of Reed v. Reed, 1971, the Fourteenth Amendment has provided an explicit basis for granting women equal rights as American citizens. (By the bye, one of Sally Reed's lawyers was Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg; I wonder whether Justice Ginsburg, who has been seen on an elephant with Justice Scalia, for the two are said to be close friends, will have anything to say about his recent remarks.)

In any case, the original rationale for excluding women from the protections of the Fourteenth Amendment did not hold and has not ever held any water from the moment it was ratified until now. All of which brings us to the backstory of the Fourteenth Amendment, and to the thorny history of gender-neutral language in English.

Prescriptive grammarians have been calling for "he" as the gender-neutral pronoun of choice since at least 1745, when a British schoolmistress named Anne Fisher laid down the law in A New Grammar. This Anne Fisher was a terrific mensch, an entrepreneur who ran her own school, including night classes for women ("betwixt the hours of Five and Eight at Night")—this, in the 18th century.

Languages with gendered nouns require the development of an inbuilt, bone-deep sense of gender neutrality. In Spanish, for example, "table" is a feminine noun, but you don't really think of the table as being a girl at all; it's just a table. That brain-wired kind of gender neutrality is what Anglophones are meant to be apprehending in words like "mankind" or "citizens"; one is meant to be thinking "everyone," even though the word itself has got some gender to it, like "table" does in Spanish. The gender is supposed to evaporate right off such words according to the sense of what is being said. Or at least this was Anne Fisher's view, and if people didn't want to persist in being so horrible to one another, it would work just fine.

So Fisher's elegant prescription regarding gender-neutral "he" caught on, and long remained the formal solution of choice. This is so even though certain high-octane English prose stylists had been resorting to singular "they" for this purpose from Chaucer onward. (Singular "they" suffers from a fatal and insurmountable defect, one pointed out quite well by Mx. Justin Vivian Bond this week: namely, that "they" is plural.) But by the late 1840s, the long-fought effort to impose true gender neutrality onto "he" had collided headlong with the political realities of that socially volcanic era.

Those 19th-century males who were hell-bent on keeping women in their place are manifestly to blame for the failure of English to assimilate a full concept of gender neutrality. Because it turns out that a lot of jerks who didn't care for the idea of women practicing law or voting were willing to use pronouns as a serious argument in order to deprive them of equal rights—yes, to use pronouns as a weapon against women, and to take their specious arguments to the courts, and to get their way too.

The fat really hit the fire after the Civil War because the language of the Fourteenth Amendment, which granted rights to the newly freed slaves, came to include the word "male" in order that no doubt should be left as to the new condition of black women; they might be free, they might be "persons" or "citizens," but they sure as hell weren't voting. (Until then, the word "male" had been absent from the Constitution.) Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton fought like a couple of tigers to ensure that the Fourteenth Amendment was written in gender-neutral language, but no soap. Which takes us up to 1868:

Bradwell v. Illinois (83 U.S. [16 Wall.] 130) concerned the editor of the Chicago Legal News, Myra Bradwell, who, having passed the state bar examination, was refused a license because she was a woman. Petitioning the supreme court of Illinois in September, 1869, Bradwell cited the state's interpretation rule: "When any party or person is described or referred to by words importing the masculine gender, females as well as males shall be deemed to be included."

In denying Bradwell's petition, however, the Illinois court simply pointed out that the state's interpretation rule did not apply "when there is anything in the subject or context repugnant to such construction." What was "repugnant" to the court was the idea that women might hold public office, including, strictly speaking, the "office" of attorney. The U.S. Supreme Court later denied an appeal based on the Fourteenth Amendment.

And then it got worse!

In 1872, Susan B. Anthony and fifty other women registered to vote in Rochester, New York, and got into all kinds of hot water. Anthony was arrested and freed on bail, at which point she took to the lecture halls to rail against sexist pronouns:

[I]t is urged [that] the use of the masculine pronouns he, his, and him, in all the constitutions and laws, is proof that only men were meant to be included in their provisions. If you insist on this version of the letter of the law, we shall insist that you be consistent, and accept the other horn of the dilemma….

"There is no she, or her, or hers, in the tax laws," concluded Anthony, blasting her opponents to smithereens. "The same is true of all the criminal laws."

I insist if government officials may thus manipulate the pronouns to tax, fine, imprison, and hang women, women may take the same liberty with them to secure to themselves their right to a voice in the government.

Moded corroded, right? But no, she lost anyway! First the judge told the jury to find Anthony guilty; when her lawyer objected, the judge tossed the jury out completely and pronounced her guilty himself. Then she didn't get to appeal, because her lawyer had gone and paid the fine ("chivalrously," if you can believe).

Now you'd think that these high-profile cases would have created a lot of ruckus among those writers who took on the semantic aspects of the pronoun question, but you'd be wrong. There was a flurry of newspaper articles from the late 1860s through the 1880s, some calling for an altogether new pronoun, some plumping for singular "they," but none brought up the very serious difficulties liable to be endured by women as the direct result of pronoun ambiguity. The apoplexy-inducing condescension of egregious buffoon Richard Grant-White in The Galaxy of August, 1868 was by no means unusual:

A speaker of good common sense and of fair mastery of the mother tongue would say, "If a man wishes to sleep, he must not eat cheese for supper," where man, as in the word mankind, is used in a general sense for the species. Any objection to this use of man, and of the relative [sic] pronoun, is for the consideration of the next Woman's Rights Convention, at which I hope it may be discussed with all the gravity beseeming its momentous significance.

Throughout the troubled 19th century and beyond, a lot of English speakers continued to fall back on singular "they," particularly in colloquial speech. This solution, however, continued to be frowned on by the best authorities, by whom I mean the Fowler brothers, the greatest English grammarians who ever lived.

They, them, their, theirs, are often used in referring back to singular pronominals (as each, one, anybody, everybody), or to singular nouns or phrases (as a parent, neither Jack nor Jill), of which the doubtful or double gender causes awkwardness. It is a real deficiency in English that we have no pronoun, like the French soi, son, to stand for him-or-her, his-or-her (for he-or-she French is no better off than English). Our view, though we admit it to be disputable, is clear—that they, their, &c., should never be resorted to, as in the examples presently to be given they are. [...]

Anybody else who have only themselves in view.—Richardson. (has … himself)

Ce n'est que le premier pas qui coûte, in novel-writing as in carrying one's head in their hand.—S. Ferrier. (one's … one's)

Everybody is discontented with their lot in life.—Beaconsfield. (his)

For all its persuasiveness and grace, no conclusive victor in the pronoun wars has emerged in the hundred-odd years since the above passage was written.

Speculative fiction has concerned itself with the thorniest gender issues for about forever. As far as gender-neutral neologisms go, the earliest attempt to grapple with those in speculative fiction that I know of was made by Austin Tappan Wright in Islandia, a utopian fantasy written in secret before the author's sudden death in 1931 (published 1942). Wright did away entirely with the words "wife" and "husband" in this book, substituting the unisex word alia ("sharing-lover"). The Islandian world is kind of haute-agrarian, a Luddite culture, slow, quiet, gentle, with a minimum of gender differences (no real division of labor between the sexes, for example) and very loose connections between couples (all of whom are straight, as I recall).

Ursula Le Guin's Earthsea series The Left Hand of Darkness, published in 19689, contains the immortal words, "The King is pregnant," and it opened the floodgates for speculative fiction written along feminist lines, complete with pronoun-neologizing.

The elegant prose stylist was at war for decades with the equally powerful feminist inside Le Guin; in 1979, she practically shouted, in Is Gender Necessary: "I utterly refuse to mangle English by inventing a pronoun for 'he/she.' 'He' is the generic pronoun, damn it." But eventually Le Guin would do just that, rewriting the first chapter of The Left Hand of Darkness using new pronouns of her own, and offering the "repronouncing" version as an appendix to a new edition.¹

The 1970s saw the next wave of pronoun debates—not coincidentally, in the wake of a second women's movement. There was a volley of new pronouns, despite the fact that none of the 19th-century ones had gotten anywhere. By the end of the 1970s over eighty new gender-neutral pronouns had been coughed up, including en, thon, hir, hesh, hizer, hirm, sheehy, and sap. As well, the currently fashionable "she" was proposed around this time.

In 1970, Dana Densmore's article "Speech is the Form of Thought" appeared in No More Fun and Games: A Journal of Female Liberation; Densmore is evidently the first U.S. advocate of "she" as a gender-neutral pronoun, a solution many writers, particularly academic writers, favor today. (There are also proponents of alternating "he" and "she"—among them, interestingly, Justice Ginsburg.)

Densmore's ludicrous claim was that "'she' is appropriate for the 'he or she' usage because within the one word it contains both the old 'he' and the old 'she.'" The fact that the new "she" also consists entirely of the old "she" seems to have escaped her entirely.

Densmore admits that there would be "some confusion during the transition period," while people get used to the idea of an "asexual she". And after it too, I fear. But the confusion is good, Densmore says, because "if nothing else, it would show men how it feels to have one's inclusion uncertain and permit women a hint of what it feels like to live in a world that is theirs" (emphasis in original). Her other suggestions, "herm" and "heris," follow a similar logic. "The old words will have to be scrapped entirely," she explains breezily.

Forty years on there has been a serious move toward "she," but "herm" and "heris" are both non-starters. I venture to suggest that "she," too, will eventually fail, because it won't reach escape velocity out of the academy and into the wider world. The logic of it is all wrong, as Densmore unwittingly demonstrates in her remarks above. On the one hand there are those who are championing "she" as a true gender-neutral pronoun when a different and highly specific sense has been fixed in that word for centuries, so that the proposal makes no more sense than suddenly calling all men and women "women"; on the other, there are those who seek to draw attention to gender inequality by forcing extra consideration on women every time an indeterminate pronoun heaves into view. If it is outmoded to open a woman's door for her or light her blasted cigarette, what are we to make of this? Where's the equality in it? It seems "not a solution, but a retribution," as one poster on a WordReference forum described it, "substituting one chauvinism for another."

The two aims, one semantic and one political, are at each other's throats.

Despite the lack of clarity or sense in using gender-neutral "she," it seems that those who have been through graduate school in the humanities are generally afflicted with it. Even the best prose stylist of my generation, David Foster Wallace (whose mother is a superb—and hilarious—grammarian²) fell victim to "she."

Even setting aside the very practical issues of using gendered pronouns for whom they are not appropriate, a situation which certainly needs fixing, even men and women aren't served well in our pronoun setup. And still, among the non-academic writers of my acquaintance, "he" wins the day, hands down, man or woman, regardless of political convictions. Within that generation of American writers educated in the late 20th century, academic writers lean to "she" and journalists, broadly speaking, to "he." Steven Mikulan, a Los Angeles journalist who writes like an angel and whose politics are very far left, did not hesitate to fix me with a gimlet eye and unequivocally pronounce: "he." I asked a ton of people, and while there were a few in favor of singular "they," this exchange with my old friend Michael, a San Francisco musician, composer and poet (and executive, by day) is representative:

Me: Do you write "she" for indeterminate pronoun? What do you do at work?

Michael: At work we make ugly constructions to avoid "he." Every once in a while, somebody uses "she" and it comes off smarmy, in my estimation. Either it's a slur against women, or it's giving women a gold star, either of which is annoying.

Me: NO WONDER I LOVE YOU SO MUCH

Michael: Lots of ugly sentences like "If a person smokes a hookah, they are likely to retain a tang of smoke."

Me: Yeah, they! Richard actually argues for this, I couldn't believe it. Many have, of course.

Michael: It's understandable, I'll give it that. I prefer "he," but that's cuz I'm old. "One" makes one trip over one's feet.

Me: OMG! Me too! I'm all, I am a woman and I am involved in mankind, you dickheads. BUT. The sexism part really is not nothing.

Michael: Yes, exactly. There really is a sexist undertow to the whole thing. Sort of like the expression "You suck" which (am I wrong) presumes that sucking is a bad thing, but everyone does it except the straight dudes. Ergo, sexist and homophobic, but invisibly so.

Me: OMG is it really, do you think?! I never even thought about sucking literally? Or maybe I thought it was like your grandmother teaching you to suck eggs. (Not that I ever understood that.)



¹ The evolution of Le Guin's thinking is marvelously sane, but complicated; the story is covered in detail in Anna Livia's Pronoun envy: literary uses of linguistic gender, OUP 2001.

² Her book, Practically Painless English, I recommend unreservedly to all grammar wonks and lovers of comic literature.

Maria Bustillos is the author of Dorkismo: The Macho of the Dork and Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman.

59 Comments / Post A Comment

La Cieca (#1,110)

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AC General (#243,642)

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cherrispryte (#444)

I'm a big fan of "one" and being reminded of how badass Susan B Anthony was.

Aloysius (#1,808)

The 14th Amendment might introduce "male" into the constitution, but it notably does not do so in the context of the Equal Protection Clause, which Scalia argues should only apply to males. The Equal Protection Clause, which Scalia argues does not prohibit discrimination on the basis of sex, says that a state may not "deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws." Because Scalia believes the 14th Amendment framers didn't include women within their definition of a "person," they don't deserve protection.

This should be ludicrous to anyone who gives it a moment's thought. Under this philosophy, if we passed an amendment to the Constitution that exactly restated the 14th Amendment, but with the present intent to include women, then women would finally have a Constitutional basis for Equal Protection. In other words, we could white-out the word "person" on the 14th Amendment, and then re-write "person" over it, and because we believe women are "persons," this would change the way Scalia would interpret the Constitution.

boyofdestiny (#1,243)

So you're saying Scalia is an asshole?

Aloysius (#1,808)

Scalia's the worst kind of asshole: a clever one with an enormous amount of power.

HiredGoons (#603)

Kind of like David Letterman.

jfruh (#713)

Singular "they" suffers from a fatal and insurmountable defect, one pointed out quite well by Mx. Justin Vivian Bond this week: namely, that "they" is plural.

Except not, because people use it in a singular way? I mean, originally in English "you" was pretty much plural ("thee" being the singular equivlanet). Now we have singular you and plural you and this confuses people not at all really.

The fact is that a significant numbers of native English speakers use singular they all the time in speech, and spoken English is real English. Actual use is how grammatical and syntactical rules are established, not through fuddy-duddy grammarians who often only have a passing understanding of lingusitics. Suck it prescriptivists!

boyofdestiny (#1,243)

Can I buy you a beer, jfruh? I was struggling to write this exact comment!

I think people who think about language critically seem to consider the singular "they" to be a surrender to folks with poor grammar. As someone trying to make his bones in the writing/editing game, I'm sort of prevented from going full descriptivist, but the fact of the matter is that people instinctively use the singular "they" to solve thorny social and political problems in speech. The trail is being blazed as we speak (pun intended!), so let's go with it.

barnhouse (#1,326)

Definitely "they" is gaining ground, and might gave gone farther still but for the academic push for "she".

As a lifelong proponent of "he", though, it's not that "they" is a surrender to poor grammar so much as a surrender to sexism (or anti-sexism, whatever); "he" has always been neutral for me. I take Le Guin's original position, I guess. Plus all the 18th-c. prose geniuses whom I totally worship all used "he", so it sounds both elegant and correct, that is, I love how it sounds so much more.

Multiphasic (#411)

I third this. "They" is now singular because I use "they" as a singular and no longer trip over it when others use it singularly.

My sister, incidentally, stridently disagrees with this. In her book, her policy is that whenever a general case is called for, flip a coin and use that pronoun. She said she'll go ahead and use "they" when it lands on edge.

boyofdestiny (#1,243)

@barnhouse: Do you think there's any going back for "he"? I know a lot of people still use it, as the piece demonstrated, but a lot of people are using a lot of other things. Do you see yourself as manning (or womanning, or theying) the barricades for "he", or just sort of nobly swimming against the tide?

barnhouse (#1,326)

@bod: more like doddering against the tide.

boyofdestiny (#1,243)

Well, barnhouse, I'm a big admirer of your powers of persuasion, and you'd be a welcome member to Team Singular They. The offer is on the table.

DoctorDisaster (#1,970)

The problem with singular "they" is that it isn't singular. You still use plural forms of verbs with it!

IronikaLeigh (#9,330)

this is why i can say "they," but always get stuck when i attempt to write it. "she" always seems too women studies, so i usually just fumble around until i delete the need for a pronoun altogether.

@DD: You mean exactly the way "you" is used? !!!

DoctorDisaster (#1,970)

Yes, "you" is also plural. Do we really want to follow that precedent, though?

barnhouse (#1,326)

@bod Thank you very much. Under advisement.

SeanP (#4,058)

@Jfruh: on "you" being plural, "thee" singular. I don't think that's true. Back when we were using "thee" and "thou" regularly, "you" was singular. The plural form was "ye". The difference between "you" and "thee/thou" is that "you" is familiar and "thou" is formal. One said "you" to one's child and "thou" to one's father. And the difference between "thou" and "thee" was that "thou" was the nominative (subject case) and "thee" was accusative (direct object case).

To get back to the subject at hand, I will usually write "he or she" (I know!) in business writing. I can't remember what I do in non-business writing, though – I don't think I actually need non-gendered pronouns that much.

monkey23 (#1,185)

@SP: You've got that wrong. ye was nominative, you was accusative (same relationship as thee and thou, you can see it in the spelling). What happened first was that the difference between ye and you disappeared, and then the difference between you and thee/thou- it's a two stage collapse.

There's nothing wrong at all with singular they. We would have changed to it centuries ago, if not for grammar purists trying to imitate Latin. It's the same idiots who made rules against split infinitives and ultimate prepositions. It's a Germanic language, it has messy grammar, deal with it.

Craig Brownson (#4,257)

I'm a pretty big fan of "they." Not to be too Women Studies about it, but I think it helps with the whole binary thing. It's totally clumsy and a little smarmy, but it's what I use.

ejcsanfran (#489)

Sci-fi is often clever with this stuff. I don't know if it was the first instance, but I remember when "Star Trek: Voyager" started, Capt. Janeway indicated her preference for being called simply "captain" – not "sir" which Starfleet protocol indicates is the appropriate honorific to use when addressing a superior officer. The captain didn't care for"ma'am" either.

And the new Battlestar Galactica followed the same rule, i.e. everyone was a sir if they outranked you…

Mightn't those cultural products be seen as reflections of the gender relations prevalent at the time of their production and not, as you seem to think, actual examples of how foreign or future people deal with the issue? ;)

Bittersweet (#765)

You mean Star Trek isn't a documentary from the future that slipped through a wormhole? Hubby's gonna bust a gut.

bshep (#746)

I consciously use singular they all the time when writing (and probably unconsciously while speaking) and there are very few instances where it sounds odd. Also, "semantic plurality and morphosyntactic singularity are compatible in English", according to famed linguist Geoffrey Pullum. http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=89

iplaudius (#1,066)

I am a huge fan of “they.” I don’t think it’s clumsy! And I think it’s feminist and even anti-classist to be open to such fundamental linguistic changes, even to cultivate them, especially when they’re based in popular usage.
There are other languages with pronouns that function as “they” could do in this context:
* sie in German: sie = she; Sie = formal you; sie = they.
* ils in French sounds like singular il, and elles sounds like elle, both of course when elision doesn’t apply (so they still have the gender thing, but at least the singular/plural thing is shown to be immaterial in speaking)
* Italian lei = her, Lei = you — demonstrates that the person can be interpreted in context, as in German, although the plural does change. (Plural “they” = loro hides gender)

FWIW, when I was teaching, I would alternate “he” and “she.” It was fun, like a game.

iplaudius (#1,066)

Weird, my edited comment won't post:
I think it’s feminist and even anti-classist to be open to such fundamental linguistic changes, even to cultivate them, especially when they’re based in popular usage.

There are other languages with pronouns that function as “they” could do in this context: …

r&rkd (#1,719)

As something of a French speaker, I'm not sure this works quite as well as one might hope, since: (1) there's still third-person singular versus third-person plural conjugation of the related verb, even in spoken French; and (2) there's still the arguable sexism that a either a men-only or a mixed-sex group takes "ils," with "elles" being reserved for a women-only group.

This is rather tangential.

SeanP (#4,058)

If were king (or queen) (or other non gender specific royal person) I'd vote for alternating.

grandpa27 (#804)

We have forgotten that gender distinctions were formerly done with the suffix -er to denote male or -ess to denote female. Examples: Waiter – waitress, master – mistress. These are still in common usage, but when you get to Priest – Priestess you come a cropper. In this, the -ess brings an erotic (unbridled sex) into the mix. In this case, the female priest wants the male powers.
Also,we haven't talked about we as a gender free pronoun. Afer all the Pope uses it in his most serious pontifications,

Don't forget -ster, chum. http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/-estre#Old_English

Gangstas take note: y'all's bitches.

Abe Sauer (#148)

This will be solved when our new East Asian overlords switch us all to Chinese.

Tulletilsynet (#333)

"Ta" seems to be one of the few monosyllables that has not been proposed yet.

Tulletilsynet (#333)

One rubs the lotion on one's skin, or else one gets the hose again.

grandpa27 (#804)

afer = after

Tulletilsynet (#333)

This is a great article with great research and I would say I completely agree with common-gender "he" (in practice I resort to a paraphrase involving "y'all" wherever possible), but now I am going to be very confused, having just now managed, after decades of study and practice, to get used to the random alternation of "he" and "she" in academic articles.

ProfessorBen (#1,254)

Well how did Ms. come about so quickly and can't we just do that with some new 'they'/'we'/'Mx'? Someone just make a magazine, call it that, and we'll all change!

KarenUhOh (#19)

Grammar "rules" are power tools, just like anything else: even the eminent Fowler would tell you usage wills out, more often than not.

Deploying "he" or "she" inevitably creates the awkward moment: it's not just [s]he who quibbles while hesitating at "they." You see "they" as, or more, often than the he/she struggle in day-to-day discourse. Hell, I used the damn thing improperly yesterday in a comment, and thought nothing of it.

American usage seems quite comfortable with "they" as the go-to neutral pronoun. Sure, it's two people: a he and a she. Everyone, they get what they're talking about.

DoctorDisaster (#1,970)

All the solutions are bad, and as a consequence, I don't favor any of them enough to use it consistently. Sometimes I 'they,' sometimes I alternate. I absolutely refuse to use 'hish' or whatever stupid made-up words have been suggested, and I notice you didn't even mention the clunky 'he or she.'

barnhouse (#1,326)

@KUO: What you so perfectly call "the awkward moment" is going to be there no matter what you do, it seems. I'm arguing largely on aesthetic grounds, I don't know, I can't imagine ever getting used to anything but "he" just for myself, which is going to make me sound ever more like the dinosaur that I am. Re: Fowlers, you are right, they were very far from being strict prescriptivists but they would take up their cudgels sometimes. The proscription quoted above (it's from The King's English) is super long in the orig. but so, so good.

@DoctorDisaster: Well said (and also pfft to "he or she".)

Multiphasic (#411)

Me, I prefer never to speak to another human being, nor, if possible, acknowledge his/her/their existence in any way.

Annie K. (#3,563)

Are we confusing the use of "they" with a plural verb to avoid the he/she awkwardness, with the use of "they" for the same reason but with a singular verb? Because the former, I think, is dandy and accurate and graceful, and the latter is East Baltimore.

I just want to say what a relief it is to see how many people here think "they" is okay, because I use it all the time and much prefer it to any of the other options, but using it is always accompanied but massive anxiety that people will think I'm an idiot because I'm not following the official rules.

sigerson (#179)

I just use "he" or "he or she". Call me old-fashioned but anything else seems odd to my ears. And the "he or she" locution doesn't really take much effort to reach.

IronikaLeigh (#9,330)

i wish they'd nailed this down earlier. though, it just occurred to me, this might be the perfect time to come up with something entirely new and gender neutral.

adults now write like tweens (i cant wait 2cu!!!), adverbs are a thing of the past (oh, how i miss "-ly") and we're about a generation away from no punctuation at all (thanks, text and twitter).

can't we sneak this one in?

lawyergay (#220)

The science fiction writer Elizabeth Bear uses "sie" and "hir" to refer to a character who is basically a eunuch in her "Dust" trilogy.

If "they" is plural, then what are you? Does you catch my drift?

larrybob (#9,335)

Wrong Ursula Le Guin book. The line is from The Left Hand of Darkness, which is not part of the Earthsea Trilogy.

barnhouse (#1,326)

Thanks so much for this! (Maria here.) Was that ever lame of me.

barnhouse (#1,326)

So I have a suggestion for a solution, finally? How about if you are male you say "she" and if you are female, "he", and if you are trans just choose one, or alternate. This would be reasonably equality-promoting and honor the basic logic on all sides (plus, I get to keep writing "he".)

iplaudius (#1,066)

This is ingenious. And it might tend to make men a little uncomfortable, which seems appropriate AFTER ALL THESE YEARS.

dagseoul (#9,340)

I love how language illustrates our inability to achieve equality. I'm not a true cynic, but I wonder if it signifies our lack of desire to do much to change the status quo. OR is it that "He" would be fine were it not for the constant reminder we are a sexist culture choosing at each instance to repress our (collective) desire to solve the problem? Scalia is a wonderfully grotesque signifier for the return of the repressed. As are silly word creations meant to signify change yet to occur.

I wish there were a pronoun that insists speakers or writers think of themselves when talking about others. "They", of course, is an other-ing device. English is a great scapegoating device.

The pronoun problem is often on my mind. I live and work in Korea where these sorts of problems/conventions are very difficult to explain to students of English who have no knowledge of the history of the language. The way "they" teach English to children, and adults in academies, refuses to insist that English language is anything other than a tool to communicate what the speakers and writers would rather speak or write in Hangukmal. English is only memorized and repeated here. It's as if the language itself has no culture.

Many native speakers of English complain about this as if it were Koreans' careless attitudes about English that are responsible for Korea's typically poor English rather than a sign of the failures of our prescriptivism and colonialism. Well, this and that Korea hires thousands of native speakers who themselves are not really qualified to be English teachers. Most are good people, just not actually English teachers.

Slapdash (#174)

"You may NOT manipulate the pronouns!"

Best line-in-the-sand ever.

Polly Peachum (#8,145)

I sometimes use 's/he," "his/her" or "his or her" and "her/himself."

Fab history of linguistics and the battle over equitable pronouns. For a gender neutral pronoun, some say or write "ze" (or spelled "zhe") to alleviate the constraints of a gender binary.

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