Monday, August 6th, 2012

Young Love

"Relationships often change people, but this was a weird one, because I was the same before and after it, but very different during."
The Lena Dunham story in the New Yorker (subscription-only) is totally worth it on a lot of levels (both "laughing at" and "laughing with," though mostly John Cook has the "laughing at" covered quite grumpily), but it's also a good addition to what I think is the best part of her projects about youth: what is it about the certain kind of person who can completely annihilate their personality because of love? I was like this when I was younger and it's completely alien to me now. How did we do this? How did our friends let us do this? How totally gross and foul.

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thematt (#222,196)

My favorite part is the online abstract's collision of clinical third person and confessional Lena-Dunham-ness. "The writer was dumbfounded. She promptly unlinked her Twitter and Facebook accounts. The main result of Nancy’s Facebook rejection was to send the writer down memory lane in a pretty disconcerting way."

flossy (#1,402)

"The writer had met Noah, her ex-boyfriend, in her junior year at Oberlin. He had recently returned from six months in India and wore hemp cargo pants."

Is this unintentional self-parody? Self-reflexive self-parody? I'm so confused and, for some reason, very angry.

@flossy : As a New Yorker subscriber, I sometimes feel that my self-image and the image the New Yorker has of me are somewhat in conflict. The image Lena Dunham apparently has of the New Yorker is just the confusing icing on my perturbation cake.

flossy (#1,402)

@Gef the Talking Mongoose You want perturbed confusion? Try being a New Yorker subscriber AND an Oberlin alum who semi-overlapped with Lena Dunham. Or is that just as redundant as Oberlin junior/Indian soujourn/hemp pants?! I DON'T EVEN KNOW ANYMORE. (sobs)

Fucking hormones, how do they work?

brianvan (#149)

If the New Yorker is going to run anything of a personal nature from a writer under the age of 30, it's fine that they run something like this. This is far-more self aware and honest (and, frankly, intellectual) than most writings making the rounds nowadays in lesser venues.

Other people's lives are so horrible. Not interesting, just horrible. I don't know how you people do it. I really don't.

hershmire (#233,671)

I tried watching "Girls" for the second time last night. I made it 10 minutes further than my initial attempt.

I made it to "I called my mom in tears" in this article.

Lena Dunham apparently has nothing to say to me.

Leon (#6,596)


jacksonwest (#637)

By "love" might you mean "the desperate attachment and self-abnegation demanded by the fear of loneliness and feeling of essential inadequacy, respectively?"

@jacksonwest Something like a lack-of-self-abnegation.

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