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From the Mail: Michael Des Barres on Pamela Des Barres

We get mail! A reader responds to our recent conversation about Pamela Des Barres' "I'm With the Band." (We called it "glorious.") The letter comes from one Michael Des Barres, and contains "adult language." So if you're an adult, you can read it.


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GiovanniGF (#224)

Did he even read the book?

Bittersweet (#765)

@giovanni: Did he even read the review?

C_Webb (#855)

@Bittersweet: Seriously. I wonder what he would have said if Nicole DIDN'T like it!

Also, I'm pretty sure we'd all decided that "cocksucking" (adj.)was a compliment.

runsinbackground (#10,344)

@giovanni I think he just doesn't like people talking about how many men have had carnal knowledge of his sister. It might reduce her marriage prospects!

@runsinbackground: Um, given that they "were together for 14 years and had a beautiful son together," I really hope she's not his sister.

runsinbackground (#10,344)

@Setec Astrology Fair enough, but the underlying point still stands; the man doesn't like people drawing attention to that book his woman wrote about all the other men she slept with.

Form letter.

Tulletilsynet (#333)

On stylistic grounds, I am sure the letter is a fake. No way it was written by the same person who wrote the Michael Des Barres article on Wikipedia.

keisertroll (#1,117)

@Tulletilsynet Hence why he didn't mention his years in El Des Barres

ComradePsmith (#4,477)

@keisertroll I really wish I could give this more thumbs up.

@ComradePsmith I gave it one for ya! Even though technically El is the singer's first name, and the name of the band doesn't contain the El. But still…awesome.

TrilbyLane (#1,318)

He does seem to have missed the overwhelming positivity towards Miss Pamela in the article. But I'm pretty sure the part he objected to was his own mention, at the end of the list of her conquests: 'Also, obviously, her eventual husband, but who gives a shit?'. Which, if you were said husband, might rankle, no?

C_Webb (#855)

@TrilbyLane: PDB's the one who rejected the title "I Was With the Band, But Now I'm With My Husband, Mostly."

@C_Webb Heee. I totally thought I was being classy by sticking to the book and not even mentioning her kids or marriage or divorce, but Now We Know.

TrilbyLane (#1,318)

@Nicole Cliffe@facebook I think there's some sort of sense of humour bypass, whereby he (and all those weird friends-of-Pam now on the comments) misread your sincere enthusiasm as sarcasm. And they must have forgotten the content of the book, if they think it's somehow disrespectful to mention that she screwed a lot of people. I mean, she's hardly flowery even about MDB himself. He gave her scabies! and got engaged to her without telling her he was already married! and… GAVE HER SCABIES!

jfruh (#713)

Whoah, I just went back to the original article, and at the bottom there are a whole series of angry comments from 5-digit user IDs and FB signins, and WTF? They all seem to take the attitude that the writer hated the book and judged the author harshly, which, having re-read it … is not the case, like, at all? Are certain wry observations on changing times and mores and such considered unforgivable attacks now?

@jfruh : In these postapocalyptic times, all objections to wry observations are settled in Thunderdome.

keisertroll (#1,117)

@jfruh According to Family Radio, Pamela Des Barres is the second coming of Mary Magdalene.

kpants (#719)

@keisertroll And according to Michael Des Barres, https://twitter.com/#!/MDesbarres/status/27646430467

His twitter feed is oddly delightful. It appears to mostly consist of him trying to get his kid to call him and pictures of pretty flowers he sees. It's like if my grandma had a twitter account, minus the local newspaper mentions of people from my childhood I'm guess I'm supposed to remember.

kpants (#719)

This, quite possibly, is the best coda to an Awl piece yet.

C_Webb (#855)

It's kind of like the whole Robert Olen Butler thing, except less literary, and more bands and blowjobs.

hman (#53)

@C_Webb Hah, I couldn't remember his name – thanks!

@C_Webb But with an equivalent number of self-righteous circle jerks.

saythatscool (#101)

I'm concerned Michael's not happy with his home life.

DRA (#12,907)

Ruff Ruff

I'm only 20% worried he's going to unleash his old MacGuyver buddies to kill me with small household objects. If I stop posting for a day, can someone come knock on my door?

C_Webb (#855)

@Nicole Cliffe: He was also briefly in Duran Duran. Maybe he'll send Simon LeBon.

Bittersweet (#765)

@C_Webb: Actually, he toured with Power Station, which included 2 Duran Duran members, when Robert Palmer bowed out. But Simon LeBon wasn't one of them. (Nerd alert!) And Nicole could totally take John Taylor now, he's all spindly and dried out.

C_Webb (#855)

@Bittersweet OMG, you;re right! I thought he stepped in to replace Andy Taylor with DD for a while, but I think that was Warren Cucurullo, whom I always remember because his name is mentioned in — incongruity alert! — "Catholic Girls" by Frank Zappa.

As I said to Choire, thank God we're doing "Fanny Hill" next; I don't think John Cleland has any living pissy relatives who'll object to me focusing on the sex, as opposed to his difficulties in debtors' prison.

Still Team Pamela all the way!!

City_Dater (#2,500)

@Nicole Cliffe@facebook

If John Cleland had a ex-husband who somewhere complained in print about being left out of discussions of the book ("who cares?" obviously hurt MDB a lot), FANNY HILL would take on so much interesting resonance.

mrschem (#1,757)

Word. I have never known anyone to go LOOKING for irony. What a massive misunderstanding.

scroll_lock (#4,122)

Pat Robertson's sold millions of books, too.

GailPink (#9,712)

My guess is he didn't even bother to read the review.

roboloki (#1,724)

i'm glad he never fucked sarah palin, cuz then he'd really hate us.

iantenna (#5,160)

you'd be bitter and aggressive too if the greatest accomplishment of your musical career was playing a fake band on wkrp.

I find it hard to believe that the snooty maitre'd from the smelly car episode of Seinfeld could use such offensive language.

erikonymous (#3,231)

It seems like Pamela's the one he should be getting mad at? Because she's the one who published all these personal stories for money? Like, over 20 years ago? Um … right?

Kevin Knox (#4,475)

"Dictated, but not read."

pearl love (#12,952)

'She has sold millions of books'Oh,realy???Such a celebrity goes to garage sale?(lol)I never thought/think Pamela Des Barres and her books attractive.They are full of lies and overstatements.I'm disgusted a huge number of people are easily cheated by her.I totally agree with Nicole Cliffe!

Halloween Jack (#16,824)

It's hard out there for a marquis.

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