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Great moments in… something: "In 1966, The Supremes explained to us that you can't hurry love. Sixteen years later Phil Collins concurred: 'You just have to wait,' he sang, additionally noting that love don't come easy. Those words of wisdom still apply, and particularly so if you're one of those participating in the seemingly eternal worry-go-round of internet dating."
Everything about this essay is true. The travel thing especially. It's farcical, the number of people who put travel as an interest way up front. As if there are people who hate to see new places?
She forgot to put "lol" at the end of that sentence.
You can bury love though.
I think another thing about online dating is the cheapness of it. I don't mean that like, people are cheap, but rather the meeting of people is cheap. I've been on OKCupid for almost a year, and I've been on so many dates with really nice and pretty girls, but everything always ends up petering out, either on my end or theirs. And I wonder if it's because once you get the slightest feeling that you're not instantly compatible, it's easy to just fold your cards and say goodbye, because there's always another person to find who might be slightly better. Whereas if you meet the same person out at a bar, or in line at the grocery store, or through a mutual friend, you'd put in more of an investment, because really, how often do you randomly meet a nice, date-able person in those circumstances?
Or, of course, I might just be feckless, callow, unlovable cretin. That's certainly a possibility.
Prior to my current relationships, I would have entirely agreed with the article. I joined OkCupid on a Monday, had a date with a nice grad student (I work in a university) the following Friday. I have been with him now for over 2 years. And my best friend is married to a guy she met on craigslist(!). The odds are not as bad as the lottery, you just have to be honest. I put full recent shots of myself on the profile, and my description I didn't bother to pretend to enjoy my job or care about what I would take with me on a desert island.
I think the major problem is that currently online is one of the few ways to meet a nice person. I went to a liberal arts school with 3 girls for every 1 guy and I currently work with married 30-40-somethings with children, so no meeting people at either points in my adult life. Up until OkCupid I was meeting extremely weird guys in bars–Scottish guy who designs underwear made out of tree bark, white guy who goes by 'Azi' and wears a full shag coat. For every few scary stories (my boyfriend once had a first date with a girl who admitted mid-way in she had just got out of rehab for cocaine and my old roommate met a guy dressed as Sailer Moon) there are success stories.