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The Semi-Feminism Of "Liz Lemonism"
"The popular television sitcom '30 Rock' premiered in the year 2006. Since that time, each man that I have dated has made a point of saying how much I remind him of the main character on that show, Liz Lemon. They said this, in each case, while we were breaking up."







She must have knock-knees and a fondness for Sabor de Soledad.
And that's when I hit close tab
No–this is really good, with even mass-appeal for close tabbers like you. Hold your trigger finger and give it another go.
Yes, it slows down in the middle but picks up again at the 2/3rds point!
I'm not sure I really agree. It seems like most of her points could be answered with a rhetorical "You understand this is a comedy, right?"
It just seems like the usual half-wit, postgrad, half-assed theory spoutin', self obsessor reading too much into an NBC sitcom
Actually that's too harsh. She's not a half-wit.
@saythatscool They could also be answered with "I know you are but what am I" or "I'm rubber you're glue" or "my cat's breath smells like cat food" but that doesn't indicate the points aren't valid, just that the responder isn't willing to engage in the discussion. Television is a caricature of human behavior but it doesn't sprout fully formed from some kind of vacuum.
If you're not into it, that's fine, but as irritated as I sometimes get by Tiger Beatdown, I admire the author's rigor.
Yes but still. Liz Lemon's not a real person. She's written by writers who are doing all the things writers do to stay employed. The author spends all that mental energy responding to somebody that somebody else made up. Non-valid from the get-go.
You could be right. My cat's breath definitely smells like cat food, now that you mention it.
But you understand that 30 Rock is something that NBC puts on in between the real shows which are beer and tampon vignettes? To wonder aloud for paragraphs about the image that Liz Lemon presents for feminism gives the show an importance that it neither wants nor has ever demanded. The show itself constantly suggests that it's mindless entertainment and there is a constant theme that all television is a silly waste of time.
I would also suggest the only reason that Sadie is taking Liz Lemon so seriously, is that she secretly wants people to perceive her as a real life Liz Lemon. Which is fine, she can sell herself just like the tampons and use 30 Rock at the attention grabber. Just don't suggest that I should take her or a beer commercial seriously.
@Annie K: Exactly.
The problem with this isn't with Liz Lemon inherently, it's that real-life people who weren't made up are prone to framing themselves and those around them in the terms presented on the show. The point here is "Liz Lemon makes for bad framing!" not "Liz Lemon is a bad person!"
With a bit of free-wheeling digression into theoryville, because that's what tends happen when people go to college and/or read Bitch.
Actually, I think Sady used to write for Bitch, so yes, point game set match endorsement deal.
(full disclosure: I like Bitch. New Internet!)
I'm still irritated with this smart/educated person framing herself in terms of a non-real person. Sounds non-smart/educated.
I'll contest that. Smart, educated people do frame themselves in terms of people from literature, television, and cinema. They do it all the time. Most English majors will justify their (fine… our) degree by arguing they often do it without realizing it, that internalization of narrative is a reflex and if we can't fight it, we may as well understand it.
And even if, as you might argue, you don't ever do that, ever, and are a fully realized person whose entire self-understanding is based solely on your empirical existence, who extends the same courtesy to your understanding of others, well… other people are still framing you in terms of external and often fictional characters/narratives. So yes, there's still some value to critiquing made-up people.
Not that you're under any obligation to find it interesting, of course.
@Multiphasic: But there's a difference between framing myself in terms of Raskolnikov and in terms of Fred Flintstone, right?
If I sat down and wrote an article about how pissed I am with the portrayal of the American father through Fred Flintstone, eventually, someone would make the (valid) point that it's a poorly drawn cartoon. And therefore not meant to be taken as a serious depiction of real fathers. (Remember daddy Bush bitching about Bart Simpson during his campaign. People couldn't laugh hard enough at him for that.) Sady has intentionally picked a silly caricature of a woman and is trying to treat it seriously even though most people who I know who watch the show don't take Liz Lemon seriously at all. It's manufactured outrage done for cheap attention, so it's a dumb article.
Which do you think Liz Lemon is more like? Fred or Raski? Be honest.
@saythatscool Pebbles.
@barnhouse: Bam Bam! You hit the nail on the head.
@Multiphasic: Now I'm wondering whether our disagreement is a matter of age. I'm ancient and interested only in whatever reality is going to smack me with a ballbat next. And maybe the author is a bright young English major trying on characters to see which fits best. So back to saythat'scool: I still think she should aim higher than Liz Lemon. But I'll back away from thinking that she's dumb to even try.
OK fair enough. But just so we're clear because I called her a half-wit before and that was wrong. I don't think Sady is dumb. I think she wrote an article with a dumb premise.
[THE REST OF THIS COMMENT HAS BEEN DELETED BY THE EDITORS BECAUSE IT WAS COMPLETELY, LUDICROUSLY, INSANELY UNACCEPTABLE AND INAPPROPRIATE --CHOIRE.]
@saythatscool
That's fine if you think it's silly or a poorly-written article. We can agree to disagree. But I'm interpreting your efforts as going further than just disagreeing and attempting to shut down this discussion because you don't think it's important.
Fred Flintstone, crudely-drawn as he is, is not trying to "seriously" depict fathers. But he is seriously depicting cultural attitudes and beliefs about fathers, and about men. Pop culture reflects larger beliefs and attitudes, and is far more insidious than we realize as people are wont to dismiss it as humour, or fluff and therefore not important. Imagine if we were only allowed to analyze "serious" (whatever that means) characters.
Is comparing yourself to Liz Lemon any worse than to, say, a real-life celebrity? I could argue that since we have an insight into the character's motivations due to voice-overs, narration etc, we actually know more about the character than we know about people in real life. Her actions are generally consistent with what we expect based on her sex/orientation/socioeconomic status. With the exception of our close friends/SO's, we know very little about other people, only what they choose to reveal. Even the, we generalize and compare them to what we know of other people and characters.
I think the better question is, how many more people, including people who've made it through higher education, are more familiar with Hannah-Barbera than Fyodor Dostoevsky? How often in our fragile lives do we hear dumb motherfuckers who will likely make more money than us (sort of using the royal we, here, but feel free to identify if you like) quoting venal, rapey Austin Powers lines? Even though their lives will undoubtedly end up more closely resembling that of a Cheever character?
I mean, you're essentially arguing that Sady should be above all this. And I'm not sure I disagree; as an easily bored member of the choir, I tend to go read about sports when preached to (delicious heteronormative fun!). But she does pretty clearly state in the editorial her desire to mix it up even on this kind of "shallow" front. And I was pretty entertained by the result.
(I mean, where the fuck is Twofer?)
Err, that's @saythatscool
What? What'd he/she say? I mean, I read it before but now I forgot. Consumed with curiosity!
That up there is @Choire.
Sorry Choire and Sady. Upon further reflection, you are correct, Choire.
It was just the Vicodin and Dickel talking, Annie. Please ignore it.
So long and so much white space. I'll return to it later in the day.
I don't think Liz Lemon would use the word 'cisgendered.'
Yes, what does 'cis' mean? I kept bleeping over it like I would foreign language terms in a translated novel.
Thirded-ed.
I believe it means you identify with the gender you were born with.
@ Tipsy: I think that's right (assuming some accuracy for Wikipedia). "The terms cis and trans are from Latin, in which cis means 'on the same side' and trans means 'on the other side' or 'across.'"
So cisgendered as a opposed to transgendered. I've never been comfortable with the Trans prefix . It implies they are beyond a gendered state, but "multi" or perhaps a new word meaning "between our known classes of gender" would be better.
And let's use another language besides Greek or Latin.
Why not mine Squamish or Hopi? We'll call them Sḵwx̱wú7mesh instead.
Wait, she gives two examples and that's the entirety of "each man (I've dated since 2006)saying how much I remind him of … Liz Lemon"? I understand that the plural of "anecdote" is "data," but come on, two data points in your entire dataset? I demand statistical rigor if she's going to call this a trend.
I'll take this piece much more seriously if you just go out there and have two or three more miserable breakups. Really, it's not that hard.
Perhaps "both of the men…" rather than "each man" would have been more accurate but it would have failed the implied Rule of 3 necessary to declare a trend.
"Midwestern?" Guess again, Lemon. lemon's from suburban Philadelphia, like Fey. Negative points.
Plus points for using "cisgendered." Negative points for using the abbreviation "cis."
Unnecessary jab at the Tamil Tigers? Negative points.
I don't know about plus points for the "cisgendered," now that I finally know what it means. We already know she's a woman and she dates guys…isn't referring to herself as "cisgendered" thus kind of obvious and redundant? Or am I missing something?
You could be transgendered and homosexual–
She's stating that she's not trans. How is that implicit by the fact that she identifies as a woman and dates men?
Guess I was missing something. Thanks for the new perspectives.
Oh, dang. Comments indicate she has a new boyfriend, too. The whole thing is a bit of a cheat. Especially how she starts out saying "I am just like Liz Lemon and all my exes say so" to by the end she's explaining how guys er comfort themselves, or whatever, at night with thoughts of Liz Lemon? Which is thoroughly creepy and I mean roundly contravenes her earlier claim of being "a lady." Yeeks. Also will any straight men who are around tell me, please, is Liz Lemon or Tina Fey so very attractive to you, really?
Not sure about how much stress you're putting on that 'so', but I'll say yeah.
As a straight, non-man, here's my theory on why men date Liz Lemon types.
It's fun to hang out with smart people.
It's fun to laugh WITH someone, not at someone.
It's fun to be challenged.
But it's only fun for a while, then they remember they're men and they go back to the uncomplicated, big-boobed secretary. Who really will make their lives easier, though probably less interesting.
And that's my not-very-rigorously thought out theory.
Yes from me too.
In her Esquire interview she mentions being "the thinking man's whatever" and makes the accurate observation that "most thinking men also want to fuck Megan Fox"
@hockeymom: You must be bitter about something. I married a Liz Lemon type and have no desire to go back to the uncomplicated whatever.
Tina Fey is totally so attractive! 100%! Liz Lemon is um less so? But might work as a Project for those of us straight men who thrive on long term relationships and/or pygmalioning.
http://www.606studios.com/bendisboard/archive/index.php/t-111751.html
Real America, all the time. Abe, what is it like in your brain?
I would give my right eye for anyone that is like Liz Lemon, Tina Fey or whatever. Sexiness example: the intro to the show… you know, that part where they're showing everyone's faces and their names? When they get to Tina Fey and she does that little giggle thing? And that's when my cold, cold man-heart melts.
Also, anyone that would actually spend any time with Megan Fox and her wonky thumbs cannot be trusted. Aside from the fact that she probably is a robot, she just looks plastic. And sooooooooo dumb. Those two things = mad anti-sexy.
Meh. I like the blonde one. No, the other blonde one.
@LondonLee. Oh dear. I'm sorry. I'm not bitter…maybe just too flippant? My husband married a Liz Lemon type! (though, at the time, it was "you remind me so much of Mary Richards"… the Liz Lemon of her day).
And the good new is, my Lemonish qualities haven't driven him away yet :)
That was way more illuminating than the article!! Esp. enjoyed Real America interlude. Thank you, gentleman.
p.s. Yay @hockeymom!
Gentlemen, I mean, whoops.
Tina Fey is the hottest. And a million ditto points to Reginal for dumb = anti-sexy (although that puts both of us in a minority among men, I must admit). Really, Tina Fey is the only way I can understand men who find Sarah Palin attractive.
Fey is sexy, smart, and side-splitting. I would marry her.
Consider the following:
I have, for some time, been referring to a particularly irritating brand of privileged semi-feminism as "Liz Lemonism." I associate this brand of feminism with a certain variety of white, coastal-city dwelling, fairly well-to-do heterosexual cisgendered woman, a woman with a comfortable white-collar job that is so very comfortable and so very white-collar that she is free to spend her spare time yearning for, and semi-believing that she could attain, something with more "meaning."
It is no great surprise that the author of the above cannot keep a guy around.
That right there was the spot that closed the tab.
And that's when I clicked "pay tab"
She's such a Miranda.
Okay, so the only two choice we get are to be a "Megan Fox man" or a "Maggie Gyllenhaal man"? If you're the type of man that prefers either of those women in any situation, chances are that I don't care for you as a person. Seriously, Maggie Gyllenhaal looks like her face is always melting really slowly. Which would make her great as the Batman-girlfriend that turns into Clayface in the next movie.
I pride myself on being a "Laura Linney not in a Robin Williams movie" man.
Based on your remarks about Ms Gyllenhaal's appearance, I take it you're a Megan Fox man?
All kidding aside, I think the decision is between being the "two-choices guy" and the "Fuck this two-choices shit" guy.
I can't help but read that as an awesome bisexuality joke. I'm going to start referring to myself a "fuck this two-choices shit" guy.
Exactly, myfanwy. When they give us two choices, I think, "Do you realize how many women there are out there? And do you realize what's ridiculously sexy (in different ways) about so many of them?"
I'm a man for all seasons, but usually I'm a "whoever wants to spend time with me" guy.
It drives me batshit when my two closest girlfriends discuss their many similarities to Liz Lemon. They actually aspire to be sexless slatterns with poor impulse control? Lord strike me down the day I start preferring a sandwich and- ugh!- a Slanket to the dick.
"Sexless slatterns"?
Words are hard!
Ha, I thought "slatternly" and "slovenly" were straight-up synonyms. FML?
Can be, also can mean 'whorish' or 'slutty.' Hence DoctorDisaster's confusion.
I know I'm commenting like a madman on this post, but can I just say that Tiger Beatdown is my new favorite blog? I'll be there all day instead of work-working.
The only feminist blog that I can read with any regularity. Sorry, Jezebel.
The post was fairly precious, but made the good point that Tina Fey's comedy is somewhat hypocritical. Tina Fey presents herself (and Liz Lemon) as a feminist, but clearly subscribes to certain sexist standards, which "30 Rock" reinforces. Sady's examples were pretty good–the way that most "30 Rock" female characters are pathetic individuals, the constant jokes about ugly old Liz Lemon, etc. Tina clearly subscribes to some goofy body myth crap, as can be extrapolated from all the jokes about "ugly girls," "fat girls," middle-aged women, and so on. These make me uncomfortable because you can tell that these are real insecurities harbored by Fey. You can look at certain biographical info (her transformation so that she was "TV acceptable", her dumping of Dratch, the boob flashing compulsion that Abe pointed out), and conclude that Fey is a privileged white faux feminist. BUT–
It's the job of comedians to be clowns, and make fun of themselves. Fey is a female, so she makes fun of females. This necessarily means exploiting female insecurities for humor (since comedy is basically the spoofing & exaggeration of human fears and insecurities.) If she acted/wrote herself like the white girl equivalent of Sir Obama Poitier, i.e., like a Strong Feminist Role Model, then she wouldn't be funny. And should we really be looking to comedians for sociopolitical leadership? Should I be mad at Zack Galifinakis for not portraying manic-depressive alcoholics in a positive enough light?
I think it's important to deconstruct pop cult crap like Sady did. I could argue that I would have liked a closer reading of the text, and would have preferred less autobiography (or maybe just more self-aware autobiography), but then we'd get mired in some endless "the personal is political" swamp, and that's way 2 college 2 B legitim8.
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