Posts Tagged: Happiness

Ask Polly: I Have Absolutely No Idea What I Need to Be Happy

Hi Polly.

I don't even know where to start, because for some reason I'm HORRIBLE at articulating my emotions. I feel like as soon as I have an "epiphany," it only opens up the door to another warehouse of issues to sift through. I'm so exhausted and worn out from an entire lifetime of extreme neuroticism and self-consciousness, and I need some clarity.

You seem to always have some advice that I can apply to my own life, so I have been wanting to write to you for a while. But I can't decide what to ask advice for since I really could use help in all areas of [...]


Trick Yourself Into Thinking You Don't Suck

"If you don't feel happy, fake it. You wouldn't constantly burden a friend with your bad mood, so don't burden yourself. Try holding a pencil horizontally in your mouth. 'This activates the same muscles that create a smile, and our brain interprets this as happiness,' [some cognitive psychologist] says." —Does this work? I don't know and I don't care. The real mystery to me here is why anyone, knowing what they know about themselves, thinks they deserve to feel happy. They don't. None of us do.


State Happy

What is the happiest state? I used to think it was "grace," but I gradually began to realize it was "shock," because at least then you're not really reacting to anything either way. But it turns out that it's actually Hawaii. Which makes sense, I guess. I mean, everybody loves Hawaii.


Happiness: How To Be It

The New Scientist takes an in-depth look at the subject of happiness, specifically the ways in which one can achieve it. I'm sure there's plenty of valuable information over there, so do check it out, but if you're pressed for time here's a quick cheat-sheet.


Difficult Listening Hour with Seth Colter Walls: Come Ye Despondent Cable News Watchers, And Restore Your Faith In Things

So have you ever started writing your annoyingly irregular music column for some website, and been sorta bummed about the long delay between your last post and the one you're about to work on, but still remain enthusiastic because you've lined up some sexily exclusive audio you're pretty sure people will be interested in… only to discover the same night you were gonna send everything over to Choire that the label in question released the mp3 for free on the internets in an uncoordinated panic over an illegal leak of the entire, soon-to-be-released album?

Oh, wait. Maybe not enough people can IDENTIFY with this opening. Well, don't worry, I found [...]


Things Will Suck Whether You're Sad Or Not

"A new study from New Zealand explores aversion to happiness, and how various cultures react differently to feelings of well-being and satisfaction. Graduate student Mohsen Joshanloo and Dan Weijers, Ph.D., of the Victoria University of Wellington discovered the reason some people avoid being positive, happy, and satisfied with life is because they have a lingering belief that happiness causes bad things to happen."


Do New Stuff And Be Satisfied With What You Have Yourself Happy

"A researcher at the University of Missouri has developed a model to help people become happier and stay that way…. The model consists of two components: The need to keep having new and positive life-changing experiences and the need to keep appreciating what you already have and not want more too soon, he explained." This actually seems kind of plausible, but it also seems like a lot of work, and I don't know that happiness is worth the effort.


Trick Yourself Happy

Do you know the six variables that predict happiness? According to this, they are: positive self-esteem, sense of perceived control, extroversion, optimism, positive social relationships and a sense of meaning and purpose to life. Or, to put it more succinctly, a remarkable talent for self-delusion.


How To Be Happy

Suck it, Barbara Ehrenreich: Science says that positive thinking can make you happier! "Despite the finding that happiness is partially genetically determined, and despite the finding that life situations have a smaller influence on our happiness than we think they do, we argue that still a large portion of happiness is in our power to change," says UC Riverside psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky. The article includes five activities in which you can engage to make yourself more chipper. (There is also, naturally, an iPhone app.) They are mostly on the order of thinking nice thoughts about yourself and others. Fair enough-some of these things very well may work-but I [...]


Knowing You Are Closer To Death Makes You Happy

"Happiness, Satisfaction with Life Generally Increase with Age"


Pretend You're Happy And Live Longer

"We have observed that when people are negative about past events in their life, they also have a pessimist or fatalistic attitude towards current events. This generates greater problems in their relationships and these people present worse quality of life indicators." —University of Granada researcher Cristián Oyanadel discusses a study showing that a negative outlook on life causes health problems and depression, which doesn't surprise me one bit, because when you think about life—that endless procession of sorrow and despair and false hope and wasted effort, the way we inexplicably raise ourselves up in the morning to put ourselves through another day of boredom at best, tragedy if [...]


Happy People Just As Messed Up As The Rest Of Us

If you're happy and you know it, clap your hands If you're happy and you know it, clap your hands If you're happy and you know it, then you may have a very serious problem which "can destroy relationships and careers," puts you at "the same level of dysfunction as a person who’s too sad" and makes you "more likely to engage in riskier behaviors like drug and alcohol use, gambling, sexual promiscuity, and drag racing" If you're happy and you know it, clap your hands

Photo by Sam Howzit, from Flickr.


New York Is Sad

New York is the least happy state in the nation, according to some new study. In fact, the Tri-State area takes the bottom three slots on the list. Six of the ten happiest states are in the South. And what of Pennsylvania, thought by some to be our greatest state? A melancholy 41. Cheer up, everyone, it could be worse. Oh, right, it will be.