On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Ugly

LW, we commenters are all running the gamut on our replies, but what came through to me from your letter is, you don't believe him anymore. In my relationships, that's Number One.

You'll have less dishes to wash and trash to take out when new guys are taking you out to dinner, and visibly thrilled at having your company. This Dude you were with will tell future women how horrid he was to you when he was young, dumb and full of come, and that you were the one who helped him become a man and he hopes you found someone who will cherish you.

Don't Settle. My FB feed is full of old school friends who did, and it's awful.

Posted on March 21, 2014 at 12:52 am 1

On Inside The Barista Class

Terrific writing. And it was "Stewart Brothers Coffee," why the change to "Seattle's Best?"---Anyone else being served Starbucks ads next to this story?

Posted on March 12, 2014 at 6:57 am 0

On Riding That Train, High On Terrain

You people with food trucks should be meeting the trains, as they are full of people wild-eyed from the terrible white-flour and preservatives cafe food onboard but have not enough time to explore during train stops. The ability to step off and get a nice fresh juice would transform the experience, as the riding the train part is actually terrific.
It's also a great place to sketch people...
Amtrak should partner with that juice guy and do a nationwide tour. You read it here first.

Posted on March 7, 2014 at 8:09 am 0

On Ask Polly: How Do I Stop Hating Myself For Getting Black-Out Drunk?

AA can work where nothing else did. The people that share their stories, the real stories like what you haven't been telling, and reach out to support others in the same fix, are doing a lot to making something work.
I've seen what doesn't work very recently, with an alcoholic family member who said no one cared about him and shut out the people who loved him. Last I saw him, he was on a tabletop in a jewelry -sized box. He was 49.
And I see it's time to change my avatar. Hillary taking a shot ain't that funny to me these days.

Posted on March 7, 2014 at 7:10 am 0

On 'Crash': The Most Loathsome Best Picture Of Them All

One of the theories presented in this chat, proven true by Saint Brad Pitt Saves the Day in this years' Oscars.

Posted on March 4, 2014 at 3:10 am 0

On Ask Polly: My Terrific Herd Of Friends Is Being Ruined By This Awful Freak

Jessica's hypersensitivity and black and while thinking match the criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder. Apparently BPD's the bane of therapists as the "love me or leave me" patients with this disorder love to sue, so therapists don't take them on. But now BPD people are thought to be able to change their behavior with training. Tl;DR this duckling could become a swan if she wanted/ was motivated to. Not your problem.

Posted on February 27, 2014 at 6:11 am 1

On Ask Polly: I'm Turning 30 And Anxiety Is Ruining Me

Dear LW, well done on writing. Did you notice that even though you've noticed the anxiety becoming more problematic for you, you were still able to trust us enough to write? There is way, way more strength and courage to you than you realize. You've got this.

Posted on February 5, 2014 at 5:49 pm 4

On Ask Polly: I Moved To A New City To Be With An Emotional Vampire

LW tattles, "and he was taking Xanax!" as if that was a bad thing. I don't agree. He had to have had enough self-awareness to go for help, endure the diagnosis, and found the ability to stay on the medication. In a person this profoundly disordered, I find myself admiring his ability to do that. That isn't something LW needs to mock; she may instead think of emulating it.
I recently read a description of "Borderline Personality Disorder" which the LW's vampire seems to fit, as well. Recent advances have said this disorder responds to DBT therapy, and motivated people can recover, additionally most see symptoms recede with age.

Posted on January 30, 2014 at 2:50 pm 0

On Ask Polly: I Moved To A New City To Be With An Emotional Vampire

@Danzig! Enjoyed your insights as much as Polly's own.

Posted on January 30, 2014 at 2:33 pm 0

On Ask Polly: My Best Friend Likes A Guy That I Really Want To Get With

Hey LW2, a husband who reneges on the child -having deal then complains about you returning to school while refusing to participate in molding your relationship via therapy, does not equal a partner who'd "walk through fire" to me. I married a guy with these traits and came to feel his lack of respect really stemmed from a fundamental dishonesty to all, including himself. As he was unwilling to change, I divorced him. Surprise, forced to deal with his own slime out on the open dating market, he's grown into a much better man than he ever would have been with me.

Posted on January 18, 2014 at 10:31 pm 0