You've done it again. You've reached right into my disfigured little heart and written exactly what I needed to hear (although I'm not the letter writer). How do you keep doing this? You're a master of the form.
Well, I finally found a Polly column I need to print out and carry around in my wallet. You really are a wonder, Ms. Havrilesky. Thank you.
@laurel Yes. These sort of people thrive on attention. The worst thing we can do is not give it to them.
" Don't ever design your life around the need NOT to be That Woman. Because our culture makes every fucking one of us into That Woman. "
I'm just going to print that whole paragraph out and pint it above my desk, thanks.
@EM yeah I mean I know people who went through a similar situation with their daughter (and the people involved were super-chill unitarians from a major east-coast metropolitan area--not exactly anti-abortion or anti single-parenting fanatics) and "ok support daughter by helping her with wedding," sort of spiraled into "and then prop up marriage, and then be free childcare, meanwhile pay couple's rent in expensive city" and then SUPER HUGE relief when the divorce was final and the dude was out of the picture, but they felt like they couldn't intervene before that because she had to come to her senses on her own. (That they were enabling the whole situation, of course, never occurred to them)
Anyway these sorts of situations are a mess and it makes me want to go kiss my birth control pills. There but for the grace of Margaret Sanger...
@EM I think the two small children may have something to do with that.
All 12 seasons of Murder, She Wrote is enough to get me through.
@wallsdonotfall Ooh that sounds lovely. Being German, I have a thing for soft, nearly melty chocolate. There's a fancy foods store near me that has them occasionally, I'll have to pick them up...
@wallsdonotfall how much different are they from terry's chocolate oranges (the ones that come in a ball that you whack and then open)?