On Ask Polly: Give Me One Reason Why I Shouldn't Cheat On My Wife

re: LW #2...you already know what you need to do.
Even if he is the first man you really loved and trusted, maybe that change is because of you, not him. Maybe it's not something unique in him that you will lose forever, but a new capacity you have that will help you find another partner who is better suited to you?

Posted on July 11, 2013 at 3:22 pm 1

On Which Fancy French Brasserie Are You Going To Forget Your Insignificance At?

Sorry, I only go to French-ass restaurants. Not brasseries.

Posted on June 28, 2013 at 3:38 pm 1

On Ask Polly: Should I Dump My Stupid, Lazy, Alcoholic Husband?

Oooh...strongly disagree with answer #2. The number one predictor of success in therapy is that the patient wants to be there and wants to go through the process. Therapy can be hugely helpful for someone motivated toward self-exploration and insight and change. But it is not always successful and can also be disruptive and painful. She is certainly within her rights to ask him to deal with his issues, if they are posing a problem in the relationship right here and now. But to require him to undergo this process in the hopes that it will forestall some potential problems in the future is unfair. Plenty of people sort out their issues without therapists! Guilting him into it is only going to make him resent her and feel like a failure. I think she can only ask respectfully, and then pipe down about it.

Posted on June 12, 2013 at 4:13 pm 2

On The First Video That Meant Something To Me: The Birthday Party's "Nick the Stripper"

Amazing. At age 16, in the wastelands of suburban San Diego county, I saw this exact video on "goodnight LA"--fuzzy reception, pre-cable--and had a similar life-changing experience. I am still grateful to Nick Cave for helping me survive high school.

Posted on September 17, 2012 at 1:10 pm 0

On Local Millennial Doesn't Deserve to Live in New York City

Using the rent regulation laws to screw your landlord: Yet another great and dying art practiced by a dwindling number of true New Yorkers.

Posted on July 6, 2012 at 2:13 pm 0

On Elements of Trolldom: Katie Roiphe and Pico Iyer

Is it me, or is Katie Roiphe more and more like a watered-down Andrea Peyser for the booky set?

Posted on January 4, 2012 at 12:30 pm 1

On How Many Crickets Can't You Hear?

This is absolutely wonderful! Except that when the internet-looking-glass reminds me that I am old, it is a relief. I don't have to be cool anymore!

Posted on November 10, 2011 at 11:31 am 2

On What's Invisible At Harvard: A Conversation

@Samantha Seconded by another non-harvard ivy league grad. I did get a good education, bookwise, and I also got a more insidious education in How People Act In Order to Win in the World that, frankly, I would have been happy to skip. Except maybe it was a good (if painful) lesson to learn early in life, IDK.

Posted on July 21, 2011 at 2:26 pm 2

On Bugs, In Order

Excuse me, BUMBLEBEES.

Posted on July 20, 2011 at 4:26 pm 0

On Prince Philip's Greatest Hits and Blunders

Shit my duke of edinburgh says.

Posted on May 31, 2011 at 2:14 pm 1