@gulleyjimson There's a big difference, though, in that one habit (drinking) will kill you, and the other (meetings) definitely will not.
Honestly, I'm not AA's biggest fan, but it helps a lot of people stay sober, including many of my relatives. It's important for people with drinking problems to try WHATEVER WORKS. It may work for you! If it doesn't, find something that does.
I know it's a hoary cliche, but the first step really *IS* realizing that there's a problem. LW is there! And the next step is getting help for that problem. Godspeed! We really are all rooting for you.
@Paranoid/Drunk AA works for a lot of people, and not for others. I don't think it's the only way to get sober. I did not go to meetings, and I know a handful of other people who quit on their own as well. It's a VERY personal choice. I DEFINITELY recommend (talk) therapy, and if you are physically dependent on alcohol, I also recommend the guidance and care of a physician (for the first couple of weeks at least). I go to the gym every day, and that keeps me on track. I find the steam room really helps too.
But you don't have to do any of that. All you have to do is stop drinking. Just decide you won't drink anymore. And when you need help staying sober or dealing with your life, get help.
For what it's worth, this book really helped me. http://www.amazon.com/Sober-Good-Solutions-Drinking-Succeeded/dp/0618219072
I know Polly already said this, and more eloquently, but you SHOULD STOP DRINKING.
I'm chiming in because I had many similar patterns to the ones you described in your letter, and I stopped drinking. My life is SO MUCH BETTER now. No panic, no regret, no anxiety. It's MUCH MUCH better on this side. Give it a try.
Your body will thank you. Your soul will thank you. You will feel better.
What motherfucking right do you have to fit so much epic poetry into one tiny news nugget paragraph?
1) He's Just Not That Into You. I personally think you can let this one go without the conversation. Why bother? There's no sign that he considers you more than a sexually-available pal.
2) oh, man I have played the "It's Cool, I Don't Need Anything More" game SO MANY times. And it's 100% NEVER worth doing. Partners cannot respect this move! Even the most wonderful, loving, commitment-potential man will let his interest drift if this is the game that's played. Because ultimately, the message one is sending is "I'm not that invested either, so no biggie", which is NOT what is actually meant/felt/intended. And such double-meaning is relationship death before the relationship evens goes anywhere.
Thank you so much for this! I am a painter and avid TV consumer - this topic has fascinated me for a long time.
I'm sad thought that you don't mention 'White Collar' - a show which has art and art forgery as its topic quite frequently, but also casually botches most of the art details. It drives me crazy when most of those things could be easily Googled.
@HelloTheFuture But there just ARE normal, non-vampiric men out there. There are! They aren't *quite* as obvious or as available as the predators - who are always looking, and always single - but they exist all around you!
I further postulate that if the vampires are the only men one seems to be finding (I know I've been there) then one might want to stay single for a while. Because once one values oneself, it's SO much harder to put up with garbage-y treatment, whether from lovers, coworkers, family members, etc.
@FloffMe dogs != children. No seriously. Children need and want different things than dogs. I swear it's true.
Also, some exes really are in the past, and that's okay.
@Niko Bellic I never went to see much live music when I was younger, but now in my 40s its all i want to do. And I was pleasantly surprised to discover that there are plenty of other middle aged humans enjoying all the same stuff I do, scattered among the candyflipping teens.