On Why Do People Do It In The Women's Room?

Women's restrooms are INVARIABLY cleaner.

Posted on April 17, 2014 at 9:10 am 1

On Ask Polly: How Do I Make My Boyfriend Listen?

From my perspective, someone who won't listen AND/OR won't share is someone who doesn't completely trust you. A person that won't listen doesn't trust you to have boundaries, or know when to stop, or not go emotionally off the rails while talking about emotional topics. That person possibly doesn't have good boundaries him/herself either, so taking on even a little of your stuff can feel terrifying. And a person who won't share about problems they face or feelings they're having doesn't trust you enough to show you any part of their unvarnished self.

You can have a relationship with someone who doesn't really trust you, but it's probably not going to be a close relationship. And if you are yourself a trusting person, the relationship is going to feel pretty stale/cold/numb to you. Maybe you can find out if that person is even capable of trusting other people - really there are some people who are so scarred they don't trust anyone at all. And if they are, you can find out how to foster trust in you. But if they aren't trusting or open with anyone, you might as well be trying to date someone with whom you do not share a common language - it's possible, but mostly unpleasant and with plenty of misunderstandings and hurt feelings.

Posted on April 16, 2014 at 7:05 pm 2

On What We're Saying When We Say We Hate Facebook

Alternate, related theory: what they are really saying is 'I'm avoiding work and wish my friends weren't such a bunch of supercilious douchebags, posting selfies and cat videos and crap links'

Posted on April 16, 2014 at 3:55 pm 1

On Pesach In Williamsburg

These photos seem … random? accidental? I'm not sure what information they are attempting to convey.

Posted on April 16, 2014 at 11:09 am 0

On My Hairdo Is Not Your Safari

what in holy hell. If I went through daily life aware that random people wanted to touch my hair without permission I WOULD GO INSANE.

Wait, why don't people want to touch my hair? Is it not pretty enough?

Posted on April 8, 2014 at 9:46 am 0

On Prudish Child Files Suit


Posted on April 8, 2014 at 9:39 am 0

On Ask Polly: I'm 33 And Single. What Am I Doing Wrong?

Friends, keep in mind that men who are relationship-minded are mostly in relationships. They aren't single very often! And so it can seem like most of the men we meet out on the open market are worthless cads, but those are the guys who are avoiding attachment. There's just more of them in the dating pool. SO yeah, the stars kind of have to align for you if you want a relationship with one of the relationship-minded ones, but it's totally worth it!

Posted on April 2, 2014 at 7:07 pm 1

On Ask Polly: I'm 33 And Single. What Am I Doing Wrong?

@missedconnections PREACH

Posted on April 2, 2014 at 7:01 pm 0

On Hardcore Art Flippers: Taking The Art Market To Its Logical Conclusion

Simchowitz may be a pig, but he's the unvarnished profiteer that this ingrown art market deserves.

Posted on April 2, 2014 at 11:05 am 0

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Ugly

@charlsiekate And in this we agree of course. But for real: our outward appearance is the #1 way we are judged by other members of our species (particularly males? I guess I'm not sure about that). Wishing we were valued more for big brains than for big breasts won't make it so.

As an older lady who was smoking hot in her younger years (and is now decidedly less so) I DEFINITELY think it behooves all women not to coast on the fleeting glamour of youthful beauty. However, I also detect in my age cohort a distinct tendency to kind of "give up" on their physical attributes as gravity begins to take a toll. Looks are not the most important thing, but they are important.

And of course, every woman I meet is absolutely interesting and beautiful and hott in her own way.

Posted on March 21, 2014 at 10:59 am 0