@My Number Is My Address
"He is a 21-year-old bachelor, a major player who has never had a real relationship, not to mention he has been with more girls than my fingers and toes, doubled. He is a guy living with guys who has moved out of home less than 12 months ago. He is extremely passionate about his job, to the point it gives him anxiety. He knows he has to settle his bachelor ways down if he wants to do well and gain a respectful name in the industry he is in. He is Italian and very good looking and by all means has everything going for him."
@jaimeleigh @Jolly Well, yeah. Sex is definitely important, especially when you've committed to a life-long monogamous relationship.
Wanting sex from his exhausted wife is not what chaps my hide about this LW. What angers me is that he proposes to unilaterally find the solution to this joint problem by doing something that he can't tell his wife about, but which he has somehow decided she'd be "fine" with if she found out. THAT's what takes this guy from "Sexually Frustrated Dude We Should Sympathize With" to "Stright-up Doucebag".
Look, I've been the lady in a relationship who wanted more sex than her partner could handle (so, big LOL to the "fact" that men want more sex than women). It was awful. I came out of that relationship with a lot more sympathy for married folks who complain about their partner's lack of drive. But I also didn't cheat on my partner. I talked to him about it, we tried to work it out, I stayed longer than I should have, and, ultimately we broke up. WITHOUT any one cheating. Because that's what people who truly love and respect each other and their relationship do.
This guy's wife could be completely checked out of the marriage. He could be doing more than his fair share of the household/child-rearing chores. That still wouldn't make it right for him to make this monumental decision about their relationship without talking to his wife about it.
In other news, who's coming to GayBiGayGay?!
Y'all know about LARP Trek, right?
@Gef the Talking Mongoose Yes, this was incredibly well-written! Such a joy to read.
@scrooge I have heard "cunny" used as well. Interestingly, "coney" is an alternate term for rabbit. FULL CIRCLE?
Wow. Those were great answers to both questions.
"Merging with another person until you become each other's spirit animals subtly changes you in a bunch of ways that quietly annoy everyone else. The metamorphosis chips away at any individual quirks that might abrade the relationship. Gone is the part of you that used to make up silly songs in the shower or found kombucha kind of disgusting. Instead, there's this new you, smoothed-out and cocooned. You forget what you’re really like, having opted for what one person likes you to be like."
How did you knoooooooooooooooooooow?
The Register Citizen?! That was my local paper growing up in Connecticut! Wooooohooo.
Never saw a Melonhead, though.
Another spooky Connecticut story is about Dudleytown, which is very close to where I grew up. I actually visited there and [*SPOILER ALERT*] it was not that scary. Dark and lonely, yes, but not really very scary.
"You may not be Tolstoy, but Tolstoy wasn't Sendak, either."
Man, I imagine that that is one of the most heartening things that an editor could write to an author.
Thanks for this info about Ursula Nordstrom. That's amazing that she had a hand in so many classic stand-bys of children's literature.