On The Terrible Story Of Shellie Ross (And Everyone Else)

I find it amazing how people who have know idea what they're talking about always have an opinion especially when it comes to someone else and how they live their lives. I lost a 2yr old son to a drowning in our pool 7yrs, 7mths, 3days, and approximately 8hrs ago I know I will NEVER forget. I was not on twitter when it happened, I was watching a baseball game and for a short time with my son. It takes a fraction of a second for somebody to lose track of a child when you're living a day. I even went as far as to put up a baby barrier fence around the pool to prevent a tragedy like this from happening but it wasn't enough. That day we failed to shut the gate (how stupid was that). He entered the pool area reached for a ball, fell in, hit his head. My wife thought he was with me and I thought he was with her. A part of me died that day but I survived it as I am sure this Mrs. Ross will too. She will have to deal with this loss for the rest of her life, always wondering what if I was only watching him closer, second guessing everyone of her actions that day. You cannot be there 24-7 no matter what others think. No matter what she was doing, she will always feel it was wrong. She shouldn't be second guessed by people that have never walked in her shoes and no idea what they are talking about. Not a day goes by that I don't rethink the whole day of events and what I could have done differently and the feeling of guilt that I should have paid more attention to him. It's all for not because I did not have the convenience of what some people commenting to this terrible tragedy have. Hindsight is a wonderful thing but worthless because it is always after the fact, to arm chair QB about this ladies misfortune is just wrong and will serve not value as accidents happen and people die. Instead of providing bull crap comments and meaningless discussions about how terrible the lady is or what she should have been doing before or after her son passed, maybe we should ALL TRY to close your eyes, put your hands together & ask God to help this family get through this very difficult time while they grieve in the manner that suits them best. Just because it's not the way you would deal with it doesn't mean it's not the right way. We live in a cynical world when a tragedy of this magnitude can occur and all people can do is criticize another for how they react only because it's not in the same fashion or manner as they would. I prey for this woman and her family because I know what the next years have in store for them. The GIGANTIC empty feeling that she must have in her heart knowing that she will not get to watch her son grow up to become an active member of this same cynical world in which we all live. I prey for this woman and her husband as statistics show that 85% of all marriages that involve the death of a child are most certain to end in divorce. I prey for this woman and her husband (a GREAT American fighting for our right to voice our opinions in this manner) that they can find the strength to help each other through the worst nightmare of their lives and I tell them that the strength you need is right in front of you. NEVER ask yourself, why would God take my son, remember God did not take your son, he merely gave him a place to go to be happy & loved. I'd like to suggest to Mrs Ross a book that helped me when I was hurting the most, written by John Edward - "One Last Time". To the Ross Family My Prayers & thoughts are with you. Please keep your heads held high and know that your son is in a better place and being look after by your loved ones that have passed to the other side. Dear God please Bless the Ross family and watch over them in this very difficult time as they morn the loss of Bryson Ross.

Posted on December 22, 2009 at 11:35 am 0