On Ask Polly: I Think My New Boyfriend Might Be a Horrible Control Freak

To the LW and anyone reading this letter and recognizing the situation to know that "if you find yourself falling in love with somebody who does not take your feelings into consideration, does not give a fuck that you are trying to reach out and hang out and whatever the fuck else. I really want y’all care more about yourselves than you care about being in a relationship. I want y’all to care more about who you are than having a boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever floats your boat. I want you to give a fuck about who the universe made you to be more than you care about being in a relationship,or dating,or getting married or anything else. You are more important than that. You really are."-Crissle

Please really know that you are worthy of better and you deserve so much better.

Posted on August 14, 2014 at 8:55 pm 0

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Won't Stop Raging About My Sexual History

LW is being alone so much more worse then being in this relationship with him? Like Polly said, you haven't gotten to a good place with yourself. If you truly believed you weren't a "hateful slut" you wouldn't put up with the nonsense. Deep down you feel like you've found someone to love you in spite of you being "awful". Been there done that. This man is going to destroy your self esteem and whatever sense of self you have. Please know that you deserve better, random strangers on the internet can see your goodness and want better for you. Please want better for yourself. Trust us he is not the only man who could love you. I'm wishing you strength so you can end this relationship.

Posted on June 11, 2014 at 3:58 pm 6

On Ask Polly: I Have a Perfect Life But My Insides Are Rotting

As Polly said please go back to therapy. Therapy is not a one and done situation. As she said, things change and you have emotional roadblocks. If therapy worked the first time it can work again.

The advice to actually feel your feelings is spot on. If you're uncomfortable verbalizing your feelings get a journal and write and write. You're not trying to get over your feelings, you are trying to work through them. They are you're feelings you get to own them. Live with some of the pain, cause you'll be surprised what great things can sometimes lay on the other side of that sadness.

Posted on May 28, 2014 at 2:17 pm 1

On Ask Polly: My Dad Died Unexpectedly And I Can't Get Over It

I've never lost someone close to me. But I do have a mother who only allows me to be "Happy". Like Polly said you need to create some distance with her. She is not the person you can truly lean on, because it ultimately comes back to a place of "Get over It". Forgive your mom for not being what you need. And embrace the things that she can give you. Wishing you all the best!

Posted on April 30, 2014 at 2:21 pm 1

On Ask Polly: I'm 33 And Single. What Am I Doing Wrong?

LW please there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! Trust me I'm one of those women who would have let the guy come over and wasted a bunch of time and energy on a f*ck boy. You're dodging a real bullets by having these guy bail early. Trust me being in a relationship with that kind of guy is 10x worse and you can also feel just as lonely in that relationship just as easily as being single.

What I'm trying to say is you need to follow Polly's advice and keep doing what you're doing.

Posted on April 2, 2014 at 4:52 pm 1