@bananalise Yeah I admit that it probably resonates with me because I'm actually divorced, with one kid and no desire for more. My focus is only on finding the right partner and I do have that allowance to sift through the no and maybe options to wait for the one that feels 100% right. Especially post-divorce, I'm holding out for the best. It's very comforting for me to read, as I struggle through all those two month non-relationships and lackluster first dates, that I'm not the only one in this boat and that I'm not inherently flawed.
Go read 'It's Not You' by Sara Eckel. She offers the most validating, reassuring perspective I've ever seen. It's a must-read for smart single people of any age, but especially for otherwise together ladies in their mid-30s who are wondering wtf is going wrong.