Hi there, LW. Been there, married that. My life was absolute hell for the 11 (you read that right) years we were together. He said he was going to use our wedding as a deadline to stop. I believed him--and that's the punchline to my 20's, folks. Divorcing him was the greatest thing I ever did in my life. Get out get out get out GET OUT GET OUT while it's easy and doesn't involve money or property. (Luckily, we didn't have kids.) Get out and do not, for one second, look back.