@enic Plus, if you read the timeline, they may have barely started dating by Christmas.
@Werner Hedgehog That's totally fair. I read "he doesn't initiate communication" and assumed avoidant, but I could be wrong. Either way they're good books to read, yes?
Also: read "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find-and Keep-Love" by Amir Levine, or the awesome awesome awesome "A Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships" by Emily Nagoski. Both of these books address "how to communicate with an avoidant partner," because this dude is AVOIDING, hard.
The hardest part of this is that long decade where it seems like every guy is this guy. Like, if you want a relationship of any kind, you have to pick this guy because he's the only guy out there. He is the factory-farmed meat of dudes; if you think about it too closely, you know he's bad for you, but you need to eat.