@THECLEANSER I agree with recent letters sounded very similar and yes it would be great to see more questions addressing the varied aspect of the human experience. I took no offense in your language since have definately felt broken and very depressed and sometimes revisit these but I am not there now and it's been over a decade sooo Once in a while it would be great to see a letter about a 40 something single mother trying to get laid by a non-tepid motherfuckers, just kidding.
I was with this very guy, it is not just one act of being inconsiderate. EVERY vacation is to his country, hummm. I am not American and miss the old country but when you are in a relationship is not all about you. He also barely have time for the "wife" during said vacation, doesn't punch the asshole friend for verbally assaulting his very pregnant wife and now insist they visit again. It is all about him. Are we promoting relationships at all cost even if damaging to self. This is not weakness, it is extrene self-centerdness.
@jalmondale hard to believe that te petsona they create isn't real...
@Lost Our Lisa I can relate to EVERYTHING you've said including the part on lobelibess. I've embraced it and feel the happiest I've ever been in my life and I suspect it will only get better.
Absolutely love the dog paddle analogy; I can't swim it is is the only way for me to move in water beyond walking buy watching my daughter swim, what a treat. I remember the misery if my 20's and early 30'svcourtesy of a challenging childhood. How freeing when you deal with your inner demons and realize life doesn't have to an ongoing battle. If you keep at facing your emotions, connecting with people who love you and try to lead a productive life it really does get better.
@Myrtle me too because for me it says that there was a connection, a real relation,something that will be missed.
46 y.o single mother here, you can date and get laid for sure just find good sitters. You might fibd that with limited time and energy, just ok dudes no longer make the cut and that they are more fulfilling things in life than fake romance.
I am at an age where I should have that "Big Job" but I like punching out promptly at 4:30pm and enjoying my life. I have often wondered why for someone so driven, I don't give a darn about career success.
I love this, Sharp Knife here. I just wished I knew this in my 20's. What a waste trying to make my boyfriends really listen and share. That sums up 17 years of two long term relationships, btw therapy was of little use. I finally met someone who was very open but he was so busy sharing his life experiences all. the. time.
@sophiah can't be your mom's pseudo therapist. Keep it light and let her cultivate her own supports or not. Needing to divulge every bit of your life experience unto your friends is extremely draining to listener, it may explain the lack of friends but therapist get paid for just that. Now when she goes on and on, what happens to yor needs, your stories, your lufe experiences? As your telling her you gotta go (cause you will have to show her how to respect your boundaries) maybe you can guide her in the direction of a good therapist.