On Ask Polly: You Are Not Uniquely Fucked

Posted on July 16, 2014 at 3:25 pm 0

On Sympathy for the Comcast Rep from Hell

I'm shocked the FTC would let a Comcast/Time Warner merger happen. It's going to create a solid monopoly for an enormous amount of the US population. And for anyone who tries to argue that regulation hurts the economy, how does having a monopoly NOT hurt the economy? Not giving consumers a choice, letting them decide who to buy from due to who has the superior product is the sole heart of consumerism, that is stifled by monopolies.
I live in Kansas City, and luckily I have access to Google Fiber, which is a GODSEND compared to living in a small town where one cable/internet company was practically the monopoly. We as customers were treated like the spat-upon ground, blatanly charged illegal fees for "going over" our 70 mb monthly limit and falling mercy to rude, aggressive, and quite frankly, scary employees who installed the services in our home. Unfortunately for Google Fiber, I believe they aren't really making any profit off the business because they offer free internet for anyone who either pays the install fee or already lives in a unit that has the system installed by the landlord or property owner. I believe they could expand into other markets in the US but it will be a very slow burn.

Posted on July 15, 2014 at 4:55 pm 0

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Clingy and This Terrifies Me

@Sister Administrator No! Which is why it's ridiculous that I would think that way. I think it probably all boils down to an issue with my self-esteem.

Posted on July 11, 2014 at 10:59 am 0

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Clingy and This Terrifies Me

This kind of reminds me of myself and my dad. He and I both have this complex where we cannot ask anyone for help or assistance or a favor. Like, it's ripping my heart out to ask someone to drive me to the airport or feed the cats while I'm on vacation. But by God I will do so many favors for other people and I will INSIST on it. I don't get it. I don't understand at all. I've discovered over time that I've developed anxious-attachments with my friends and if they say something or act negative towards me (or that I suspect they are) I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around them until something "proves" to me that it's not an issue anymore and they don't hate me.
This letter and its response is not the exact same issue that I'm talking about but it does remind me that I need to not care so much about this. If people really don't want to be my friend, then we won't be friends. Asking them to help me is not going to make them hate me. They're not bubbling with passive-aggressive anger because I asked them to help me move into a new apartment or criticized something they happen to enjoy that I might not enjoy. I guess my overall shyness and struggle to make and maintain long-term, successful friendships and romantic relationships has sent me into a spiral of emotional chainmail armour and fear of being myself. So, thanks for writing this (both of you) and I will try to remember these ideas.

Posted on July 9, 2014 at 5:20 pm 0

On Ask Polly: How to Be Nice

My parents are divorced too, I wouldn't say they were mean to each other after the fact though. I guess the only thing I can add is to remember that, if it helps, try to think of your attitude adjustment in terms of how it will make you feel. For example, I've had teachers in high school that just seemed to hate me for no reason at all. Instead of being mean back, I just acted overly nice to them. It hurt my soul a little bit at first but quickly I learned that their attitudes towards me changes for the better, and in that regard I was in control of the situation. It's not a fully applicable example compared to yours but I hope it helps.

Posted on June 18, 2014 at 3:42 pm 0

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Won't Stop Raging About My Sexual History

@Carol Sterritt@twitter She says in the article that he plays baseball and is out of town for about 90 days every year because of it.

Posted on June 11, 2014 at 4:53 pm 0

On Ask Polly: I Thought My Mother-in-Law Was Going to Kill Me at My Wedding

Sorry if this is a dumb question but I'm confused by the first real paragraph of the letter about the maybe sort of physical abuse? Who was abusing who and how did it have to do with grad school?

Posted on May 14, 2014 at 3:35 pm 6

On East Village Radio, 2003-2014

The new system of paying royalties for music really did screw over a lot of independent stations in the US. Even in college, we had to hire a communication lawyer (at $500 a hour) who lives in DC to figure out or options. And our semester budget was about $7000. We were able to figure it out and survive but there was always a feeling that things could be shut down any day if they changed the rules again.

Posted on May 14, 2014 at 11:24 am 2

On Ask Polly: I Was Dumped After a Freak Accident and I Can't Move On

@Ellen Wheels I'm with you girl.

Posted on May 7, 2014 at 5:44 pm 1

On Ask Polly: I Was Dumped After a Freak Accident and I Can't Move On

Great thanks for making me cry at work POLLY.

Posted on May 7, 2014 at 5:41 pm 1