Oh THIS so much! Thank you Polly. I'm 6 months away from a wedding and sometimes I find myself getting so scared and pissy with my partner that I think the whole thing is a huge mistake. This, even though he is awesome and kind and oh-so understanding and I come from this awful/weird/abusive background so I KNOW I have work to do. But when you start panicking because you hate how they leave their clothes on the floor or meow at you like a cat (no really, this is a thing) it makes you get all head-fucked. Thanks you for reminding me that it can be okay to feel annoyed at your partner's flaws. More talking, more honesty.