Another thought: one thing that really helped me was reading Cristina Nehring's A Vindication of Love and finally letting myself feel all the feelings, which meant taking them seriously. LW1 is feeling grief. Maybe recognizing it as a legitimate, serious thing instead of trying to shut it down is worth a try.
Also, guys, no matter what you do, the, uh, broth culture in which we all swim is made up of other humans, so the answer is never "get a turtle."
I recently read an article from a prominent creative person in which she was all, "These ideas sprang from my brain in a vacuum and everyone is a thief!" so this was a nice antidote. Thank you.
I'd like to say that the answer to LW1 is generally wonderful, BUT. If you loved a man, isn't it problematic to simply dismiss him as fickle, shallow, indifferent, etc? Isn't that tantamount to discrediting yourself, the person who loved him, and did it NOT because you were crazy, silly, blinded, stupid, fooled, or overly vulnerable? Part of self-acceptance, is, after all, being ok with the fact that the former you is you, too. I think one can reach such self-acceptance while honoring one's own past feelings of love. Because love is really important, and respecting your own heart is pretty key to loving in the future, too. Even if it turned out wrong in the past.
Wow, I so needed to read both of these. Thank you!