Polly, you are wonderful and wise. LW, I hope you find so much happiness with this creep out of your life.
I'd also like to propose a general rule and say that if you're making a decision that you can't tell your friends and family about because you know they'd judge you, you are making a bad decision that you will regret. If you honestly don't trust your friends to understand you and what's good or right for you, then you should find new friends.
@Susannaf WOW, I never made that connection before either but that is me to a T. Thanks so much for putting this out there -- I think keeping that in perspective can help a lot of people.
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Love every word of this. This is the exact advice I would give these poor girls, especially if I was older and wiser and wittier. Why IS everyone so afraid of being alone in their 20s????? Preach, Polly!
THANK YOU for this! Except not, because you just tore this ole wound open afresh.