@fiveoneeight Me too! With some slight differences. In my case I have tried freelancing, starting my own business, etc, and while I was successful, if not insanely so on the financial end, it didn't make me happy. I enjoy the security of my office job but it's not fulfilling and I think I'm wasting my talents. This holding pattern has to end but I'm not sure what to do. Maybe Polly's answer is the start.
The day after I read this we went to visit some friends in a high-rise (50th floor) and I couldn't get near the railing.
Guys: Never tell us that your ex was multiorgasmic. This seems like an obvious no-no. I imagine they wouldn't like us telling them about how our ex had a huge penis, too big really, no, yours is perfect!
I grew up in a community with a lot of Jewish folks, so Weiner/Wiener was so common as to be unremarkable. There was, however, a girl with the last name Slutzky. That would be tough.
Ugh, soy! Some people just cannot tolerate it. Including me. I was one big gasbag the month I tried to drink soy milk. Rice drink to the rescue!
@foxbat91 Keep in mind freelancers have to set aside about 30 percent for taxes, since you don't have an employer contributing to Social Security, etc. (And you have to pay them quarterly.) Plus you have to buy your own office supplies, computer equipment/software, health insurance, etc. And it's not guaranteed he'll make that much every year.
@Lifeasweblowit Same here. I've also been accused of it when nothing controversial was said or quoted. I think often people think they sound one way and their words in print don't match up with that.
"Offices are not normal. We are expected to speak in clichés and small talk and jargon, to be enthusiastic and never ambivalent, to go with the flow and question nothing." This, THIS, is why I hate working in an office. If only I could figure out a way to not do it while also paying my mortgage.
You obviously don't read much fashion writing. Let's just say if you had to take a shot every time you read the phrase "vertiginous heels," you would soon be dead. But it's a great photo!
LW1, what you want also has to come from a place of genuine (positive) desire, not fear. When we say "I want this" it too often can mean "I am afraid of this"–in your case, afraid of being alone. I've been there! It's not always easy and it takes some work, but you can do it.
By the way, I am 43 and not married, and have had two- and three-year stints of not dating ANYONE. I did the online thing with mixed success (no horrible experiences, luckily!) but then ended up with an acquaintance I've known for 15 or 20 years. I'm not saying that's what will happen for you, but the old cliche that you have to find happiness within yourself–well, I think it is true. You can't expect one person to make your life wonderful.