@E I really like this way of thinking about it.
Hmm. My mom recently made a judgement about my boyfriend (whom she's never met) and it really shocked me. I hate the way I responded too because although I defended him I didn't do it as solidly as I should have (as in flat out saying "it's a non-issue").
That said, I do find reactions to other people's judgements to be pretty telling and I'm with Polly, you need to stop thinking about engagement and marriage and focus on NOW and continuing to build your relationship with him and figuring out how you fit together. It's clear you're not entirely comfortable with this relationship yet.
I'd say something like 90% of all adult relationship problems (doesn't matter if they are romantic or not) can be solved by COMMUNICATING. LW needs to talk to this guy about everything she wrote here.
"(people who follow this column: accepting a lifetime alone and exploring your own hobbies/projects and truly being okay with your single circumstances works wonders on meeting kind, interesting individuals! Not just people you end up falling in love with!)"
THIS IS THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH! As much as I was sad sometime for being single for years on end (over a decade, really) and spend a good amount of time wondering why oh why people didn't seem to want to date me, I would never change a single thing about all that time because I have met some of the most interesting, inspiring, and awesome people ever. I've also tried so many new hobbies and traveled and eaten foods and all this amazing stuff because I figured "Hey, why not! I'm certainly not going to just sit at home alone all the time just because I am single and don't know anyone in this new city. Why not give this crazy thing a shot and see what comes of it!?" My life has been nothing short of awesome.
I'm all for everying having a passion but goodness, whenever I hear of anyone camping out in line for concerts/stores/whatever I think that has got to be one of the most boring things you could possibly do. Boring like "is it time yet?" kind of boring.
Also, I normally REALLY, REALLY despise when characters break the 4th wall but I actually really like how it's done here. It works well and doesn't come across as cheesy as it usually does!
I've watched the first two episodes and LOVE it. I'm desperately trying to do everything I can to convince myself to take my time and enjoy it over more than 2 days.