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On Ask Polly: How Do I Stop Meeting Arrogant, Mentally Ill Pricks?

@rabbitheart Yeah and since when do the mentally ill all have a "surplus of confidence"? Not something I've noticed in people with crippling depression, for one.

Posted on July 8, 2013 at 4:33 pm 0

On Meet The Awl 2013 Interns

Becca Hafter keeps a Google Doc of party themes? No way! BUT SERIOUSLY HOW MUCH DO YOU PAY THEM

Posted on July 8, 2013 at 3:17 pm 1

On Porn Star Problems

I like this a lot.

Posted on July 2, 2013 at 3:42 pm 0

On Ken Hoinsky On Seduction, Women And Mistakes

@Julia duMais Another good thing to do would be to not attach the term "rape culture" to any situation that makes a woman uncomfortable.

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 5:55 pm 1

On Ken Hoinsky On Seduction, Women And Mistakes

@Hiroine Protagonist She's one of the only people making sense on this thread. The guy barely said more than "be persistent" (not always the best advice, but whatever) and people are acting like he's promoting rape. Accusing a slightly sleazy guy of encouraging rape is incredibly serious and has the potential to ruin that person's life but I guess self-satisfied moralizing and half-assed insults are a lot more fun than ACTUALLY TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WHAT THE PERSON WAS SAYING.

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 5:51 pm 1

On Ken Hoinsky On Seduction, Women And Mistakes

@bluebears "It's nice to hear a logical argument made by a woman." "WHAT EXACTLY ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY SAY WOMAN AREN'T LOGICAL OR SOMETHING??!!"
You seem dumb.

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 5:28 pm 0

On Ken Hoinsky On Seduction, Women And Mistakes

@IBentMyWookie These sort of debates are always tricky, because people are so afraid of being the "rape defender" that they start attacking straw men. This guy makes it very clear that if a woman wants to you stop, you should. Saying a guy should keep going UNTIL she rebuffs him is very different than saying he should keep going AFTER she rebuffs him, but people on this thread talk like the two are interchangeable. It's nice to hear a woman's perspective like yours, informed more by logic and common sense than outraged self-righteousness.

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 3:40 pm 3

On Ken Hoinsky On Seduction, Women And Mistakes

@IBentMyWookie These sort of debates are always tricky, because people are so afraid of being the "rape defender" that they start attacking straw men. This guy makes it very clear that if a woman wants to you stop, you should. Saying a guy should keep going UNTIL she rebuffs him is very different than saying he should keep going AFTER she rebuffs him, but people on this thread talk like the two are interchangeable. It's nice to hear a woman's perspective like yours, informed more by logic and common sense than outraged self-righteousness.

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 3:40 pm 1

On Ken Hoinsky On Seduction, Women And Mistakes

So glad this was published. Don't get me wrong: Pick-up artists are total cornballs...my ex-girlfriend skimmed that Neil Strauss book just so she could know when some guy was using a canned line. That being said, the vast majority of them are not rapists or rapists-in-training, and most of the pick-up advice out there (as corny as it might be) does not come close to advocating sexual assault. I think women would be wise to look out for fratboys, bankers, and other people not used to taking "no" for an answer instead of vilifying a bunch of desperate nerds who can barely work up the courage to start a conversation. YES, they need to be more assertive. NO, that does not mean they should assault anyone.

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 3:15 pm 3

On 'The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel' Is My Favorite Movie Of 2012

@deepomega I second that. And if they said "India, like anywhere else I suppose, is about what you bring to it" like Judi Dench does in the movie, I would convince the ghost of Edward Said to karate chop them a couple more times for good measure.

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 9:45 am 3