@A Snood Mood Glad I'm not the only one. That is a 21-year-old manchild trying to sound smart. Which... no. Just no.
Great answer or THE BEST answer? I didn't figure this out until I was almost 30. Praise be to Polly. (And thank god texting wasn't really a thing yet when I was in my 20's.)
I am one of those people like LW2's friend who disappears into a relationship. I know it bothered/bothers many/all of my female friends.
In my defense, I'm introverted and analytical by nature... and being around people is exhausting for me. The early days of a relationship, the part where you can't tell each other your life stories fast enough and want to be together every night and blah blah blah would literally take up all of my social and emotional energy. It wasn't that I didn't still love my friends. It's that I knew I would be a real drag to hang out with because I'd spent my social time and needed to be alone when I wasn't with the dude.
@WiredCake I actually did Medifast, and it worked exactly as advertised. I lost close to 30 lbs in a month and a half. Unfortunately, it was too expensive for me to continue, and I gradually gained the weight back. It's something to consider if you have disposable income and aren't allergic to soy.
@WiredCake Too many to count. Medifast? Amway? Nutrilite? Herbalife? And god only knows how many others.
I had a co-worker trying to get me into what was an *obvious* pyramid scheme. Repeatedly invited me to meetings at his house with "the number 1 earner in our sector" or something.
Yes, sir, I admire the sentiment on your pin. Sign me up right now. SAID NO ONE EVER.
@janicek I just assumed you'd say "New York State". Before I moved to Oregon, I always had to specify Washington State, no, not Seattle.
@Peteykins Yeah, I realized going down the list that I had read far too many books about things changing the world. History nuts, amirite? :)
How about every lady who has a good, safe, healthy one tells us where they met?!
I met my husband at a bar, in the beer garden. Ugh, I KNOW. And he was dressed far out of fashion (but not far enough for hipsterism/irony) with terrible hair. He talked like a salesman, with obnoxious, forced familiarity and way too much eye contact. In short, he was outwardly awful in every way. The opposite of charming.
But when I met him away from social a situation where he felt the need to "perform" for the group, he became this sweet, thoughtful, generous, hilarious guy. And that guy was much better looking, for some reason.
@ImSerious I agree totally with both your responses. It is hard to be pragmatic when you're so young, but take the advice of those of us who have done a bit more living: Nothing happens unless you make it happen. She sound so passive in her letter, like she's just waiting for a fairy godmother to transform her life... but you gotta be your own fairy godmother, kid. :)
@Better to Eat You With I'll admit that was my first instinct too. I know enough people from strict churches who got married at 19 specifically so they could have sex. No pregnancies in that bunch, thank goodness, but many divorced in their early/mid-20's and then struggled with the dating scene since they'd never experienced it before. I pity LW1 because I think she the product of a culture that doesn't value her, but I think she needs to take responsibility for her life now.
That first letter Can Not be real. I mean...how? I'm going to get all liberal and angry for a minute because these things should not happen in a country with free public education and access to birth control.