On The 40-Year-Old Reversion

I am a woman in my 50s and I have never been more happy and content in my life than I am now. Why? Because I made good choices in my 30s and 40s. I took care of those I loved and continue to do so. I valued and nurtured my relationships, never taking them for granted and worked towards making those relationships a priority in my life. It took decades to build the solid, loving relationships I have in my life today.

It is sad and pathetic that women in our culture our investing in such futile, vapid and destructive pursuits. Our culture has regressed into a depraved state of narcissism. The types of women the author describes have no sense of impulse control and are gluttonous in fulfilling their every debased whim. Obviously, their whims come first, their families second. Actually, their families are merely narcissistic extensions of what they want to portray to the world. And they use things like facebook and twitter as a way to fuel their narcissism, because it’s really all about them and no one else.

They are behaving worse than 20 year olds. There is something about entering the late teens and 20s. Generally speaking (in very much broad terms), it is a stage in life when we are biologically and developmentally imbalanced. The 20s is a time we are trying to figure out who we are, trying new things, engaging in risky behavior, and for many of us, learning some very uncomfortable lessons in life as a result of these choices. The 20s is, for most people in American culture, a very selfish period of development in which we focus entirely too much thought & energy upon oneself. And in many ways, we need to do this, in order to learn and grow. It is a rite of passage for 20 years old to go through this intense self-realization boot camp.

As we progress, we focus on our relationships, those we love, whether they are friends, significant others, children, parents, siblings, etc. As we progress, we realize that our choices expand beyond just ourselves. Our choices expand towards the people we love and who love us in return. We being to develop a deeper sense of empathy and realize how our choices impact the ones who depend on us. We depend on each other. As you mature, you don’t take as many risks, you become focused on stability and providing that for your loved ones through many venues (physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually). You begin to think ahead, to the future generations of your family, and you hope they will be taken care of when you are gone. You begin to realize that we don’t know how much time we have on this earth, it can be gone any moment. Life is a precious gift that we share with those we truly love. Why would someone want to waste it in a constant drunken state, flashing strangers in a bar, and behaving like a selfish moron?

Posted on July 30, 2012 at 10:47 am 0