On Two Minutes of Walking on the Internet as a Woman

@NinaG Get a job.

Posted on October 29, 2014 at 7:05 pm 1

On Ask Polly: Should I Cut My Abusive Mother Out of My Life Forever?

Oh shit, not a "grizzled contractor in a smelly truck"!

Posted on July 30, 2014 at 7:33 pm 0

On Ask Polly: I Feel Violently Ambivalent About My Boyfriend... So Should We Get Married?

LW 1, not to be a dick, but I feel the need to reiterate that you seem to (and likely do) really hate your boyfriend. I know because this is how I used to talk about my dumb boyfriends that I hated, during our various protracted godawful infected hangnail break-ups.
He "still wants me to fight for him"? Fight who or what? Yourself? Your vagina? Your better instincts?

Posted on September 11, 2013 at 7:46 pm 2

On The 40-Year-Old Reversion

@Art Yucko Miss u, Barea!

Posted on July 10, 2012 at 8:30 pm 0

On 111 Male Characters Of British Literature, In Order Of Bangability

He is hot and weak and young and soooo romantic. I guess it is a 21 Jump Street thing?

Posted on May 2, 2011 at 5:21 pm 0

On 111 Male Characters Of British Literature, In Order Of Bangability

Yes, I am confused as to why Lydgate and others are so much higher on the list than Ladislaw. I mean, Ladislaw!

Posted on April 29, 2011 at 4:00 pm 0

On 111 Male Characters Of British Literature, In Order Of Bangability


Posted on April 29, 2011 at 3:58 pm 0

On How To Break Up With A Gay


Posted on February 25, 2011 at 4:07 pm 0

On Being Female

@cherrispryte: Please explain to me, specifically, the sinful nature of my Uncle Tom reference. I would love to hear you articulate that.

I also find it awesome that this "Uncle Tom" reference is the first thing everybody has seized on in refuting my argument (especially since it's not at all germane to the argument I was making.) But if you want to dismiss me as a racist so that you can feel good about your position, I suppose that's your prerogative. Dance alone in your apartments with your racism>sexism binaries and wall charts of inappropriate vocabulary words.

My comment wasn't directed at you alone; it was directed at a number of the female commenters on here who made dismissive comments. I was really surprised to see these types of comments being made by these specific commenters, since they don't usually write weird, reactionary things. It *reminded* me of certain otherwise intelligent women I know who are always eager to defuse feminist arguments, saying things like "domestic violence affects men too, you know," etc. I do think of these women as Uncle Tom types. Is that harsh and offensive language? Yes. I feel harshly and am offended by this behavior.

Did I actually accuse you, specifically, of making ridiculous statements about rape, et. al? Or did I say that some of these comments *reminded* me of ladies who say that kind of thing? It's a small distinction, but kind of an important one.

As you point out over and over, I don't know your life! I just know your Internet comments, which include statements like the following: "The idea that there are different expectations placed on people, based on gender, and that women are considered the "other" and that society judges people differently based on gender, and that people finds labia to be scary? That's like a pre-req to feminism 101. None of the information or viewpoint presented above is new or special."

This statement seemed to imply a level of boredom with Myles' essay, since it covered such pedestrian, well-worn topics as the representation of the female perspective in art, institutionalized sexism, and so on. I do find this point of view to be jerky; it seems like the kind of thing that only a woman with a fair amount of privilege could say. Again, I don't know your life (say it in a creaky Southern old man voice for extra impact!)

That's quite the paraphrase you make about my second paragraph. You dislike Myles' essay for being about how she feels: "But this wasn't "holy shit this sucks, here's how it affects me, here are some solutions," this was "I have a lot of feelings about this pie chart, and all women must feel the same way I do about this pie chart." Then you want utter amnesty for your rather feelings-based responses.

I like Mr. Sauer's response not because he is a MAN but because he was thinking about the economic angle, which nobody had heretofore brought up. And because it was a substantial critique. As I read the essay, I couldn't help but think about the situation of writers like J.K. Rowling and Jennifer Cruisie, who may not get much acclaim but are definitely economically dominating other popular fiction writers like Clive Cussler. Does Harry Potter contain a female reality? Did Rowling's choice to center the series around a male character and to recycle the classic Hero's Journey male narrative help her to achieve an oddly appealing androgyny in her style (a style that led to her giant success with everybody)? Is Rowling ever going to write about a female protagonist? These are intriguing points (for me) to think about.

Posted on February 15, 2011 at 3:39 pm 3