Polly's advice is great. I do think you like the drama. In the beginning of this letter you sound like you're looking for any excuse for ending up friends with this woman who you don't even really like. It's one thing if someone you don't like is an unremovable part of a group, but nobody was making you hang out with her one on one. Why do you have so much time for her? I think maybe you're a little bored. Listen, I've been there. But you clearly realize how distorted this woman's perceptions are, so the only thing to do is back away slowly. She might have Feelings about it, but Polly is right that you can't explain. You can't reason with crazy. People like this feed off of your attention and time and energy, and they will completely drain you unless you pull it back.
@mathnet That's hilarious. Your husband is awesome.
This was such a brave piece in light of how often people feel compelled to police pregnant women's bodies. I wanted to know, though, how did other people respond to her drinking while pregnant? She talked about her doctor friends approving but we hear so much about strangers rubbing pregnant women's bellies and asking them personal questions. I imagine it'd be difficult for a visibly pregnant woman to even order a drink in a bar without comment. Has anyone else experienced this?