"Trigger Discipline" = great new band name #icalledit
@IBentMyWookie Agreed. LW2, your girlfriend can go to the salon and get waxed. But there's no spa treatment for superficiality. Or if there is, my waxer hasn't offered it to me yet!
@Hiroine Protagonist Really hits the nail on the head. LW1, How can you expect anything to look right to you only four months into your freedom? Try to be nice to yourself first. If you keep doing that for a while (minimum: one year!) you'll eventually figure out which things feel right FOR YOU. Who cares what other people are doing?
I'm a 40+ single lady living in a certain overdocumented neighborhood of Brooklyn, too, and I can sympathize with being annoyed with the "shallow" youngsters (in quotes because obviously I was just as obnoxious at 25) crowding up the dive bars with their Jaeger shots and their faux nostalgia. But when it really gets to me, I go home to my well-appointed grown-up apartment and do my own thing. But that's me! Your results may very. You need to figure out what it means to do YOU.
I'll also throw this out there: I have a bunch of married-with-kids friends and some longterm coupled friends too. And most of them are at least a little jealous of my swinging single lifestyle. I would be too if I had to deal with cranky toddlers or recalcitrant spouses. BUT I TOTALLY DONT HAVE TO. I just worry about me.
Single over 40 is not for the faint of heart, surely. But it can be a hell of a lot of fun. Eventually. First, though, definitely break up with that guy.
Mangal 2 was created in 1996. Back then 'hipsters' were just a myth that you'd say in the mirror 5x to scare kids. How ignorant we were.— Mangal 2 Restaurant (@Mangal2) March 20, 2013
On Ask Polly: Why Is My Boyfriend Addicted To Internet Sex Chats And Why Won't He Stop Lying About It!
As a person who left her heroin-addicted boyfriend in her 20s (he wasn't using when we started, but went back to the drug while we were together) I can honestly say that NOTHING is going to work for you while you are still with this person. Cut ties and do it now. Polly's suggestions about reconnecting with other people are SPOT ON. I thought I would die when I broke up with that foxy jazz drummer, but after a couple of weeks of depression and agony, I was feeling right as rain. And then I went out in the world (with a lot of support from friends) and got a kickass new job and new life. And you will, too, I bet.
I think it can be hard for folks who havent been up-close-and-personal with heroin addiction to relate to how absolutely terrifying it can be to see a person you love in the grips of that particular drug. I know for me, it really undermined my self esteem and made me comfortable with a kind of ambient nihilism that always hovered around my junkie friends. It looked cool! But it was extremely unhealthy for me even though I never used myself.
Not everyone I knew during that period of my life actually made it out alive. I did, and you can too. Go sit in the sun and call a non-addicted person that you love and trust. I'm rooting for you.
Not mentioned in this piece is that Mr Stolarik is one of the best, most stoic, most professional shooters on the street. And that he is built like a (super-intelligent) Mack truck.
Totally agree that the plot was all manners of unbelievably ridiculous. However, I was absolutely seduced by the beauty of the movie and none of this bothered me one bit until my brother pointed it out to me. I'm glad I saw it before I read this, because this probably would have wrecked my enjoyment. The movie is - no kidding - just ridiculously gorgeous, despite being rather braindead. Like an underwear model with a third-grade education.
@flossy I'm with you there.
@flossy : not to diminish the real scholarly work of critics and curators, especially in the visual arts realm . the work can be very academically rigorous! it can be super helpful and intensely interesting! but at the end of the day, it IS choosing some things from a larger group of things and comparing them to other things.
1) Curating and collecting aren't the same thing, and 2) neither of those things is a creative activity. Pointing to stuff you like is not a creative activity. As a painter, I offer boundless appreciation to all collectors and curators out there. In the world of actual art objects (paintings, sculptures, etc, yes, so retro, I know) few people are confused about this. It's only in the neverending social media swirl that people seem to want to conflate these very different roles/words/abilities.