On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Ugly

@Real-ism Sorry, but it's not "special" for a man to do household chores. He doesn't get a pat on the back for doing that. It's simply a matter of being a functioning adult.

Posted on March 20, 2014 at 12:22 pm 2

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Ugly

"Empties the trash and washes the dishes" = a damn low bar for a grown adult.

Posted on March 19, 2014 at 1:39 pm 9

On Guy Who Was Making It All Up Got Two Book Deals, Where's Yours, Loser?

Wait, wasn't there a, er, pretty compelling correlation with his Goldman Sachs tweets and the lifework of another comedian?

Posted on March 19, 2014 at 12:53 pm 0

On Ask Polly: I'm Turning 30 And Anxiety Is Ruining Me

@cmeggles @grizzle_bees I realised it a couple of years ago when I was researching a lot on daydreams and kids' imaginations and writing a semi-memoir thing. All that happy time I used to spend daydreaming was going into anxiety about things that were... just as fictional as the daydreams.

I think it is good to run some negative scenarios in your head (what if I do x and y happens?) but to see them as a way of working out the best thing to do, rather than as a terrible, inevitable spiral down. But the rest of the time you can be riding a pony, or spending lottery millions, or decorating your home or whatever floats your boat. :)

Posted on February 6, 2014 at 4:04 pm 0

On Ask Polly: I'm Turning 30 And Anxiety Is Ruining Me

Hard to build on a Polly crescendo, but one thing:

Anxiety is imagination turned against you. Was there a time when you had long, epic, indulgent daydreams as a kid, where you did amazing things or wonderful things happened to you? The imagination that drove that is now being used to flesh-out the fear about your pores being magnified or a horrible conversation that has never happened - probably will never happen.

Try, once a day, using that energy to have a really detail fantasy about...winning the lottery... riding a galloping horse...being king of everything... Whatever you fancy as long as it's positive. Don't dismiss it on the grounds that it will never actually happen – the things you are stressing about won't happen either. Or if they do, as Polly points out, they won't be so bad.

Posted on February 5, 2014 at 3:15 pm 2

On Ask Polly: How Do I Find True Love And Stop Dating Half-Assed Men?

@TimK39 Half-assery is an equal opportunities state. Sadly.

Posted on October 18, 2013 at 5:53 am 0

On Ask Polly: How Do I Find True Love And Stop Dating Half-Assed Men?

@paddlepickle I guess you just try to do everything you ever wanted to do and held back on because you were waiting for a boyf. Like... go on holiday to such-and-such place (travel solo and survive!), buy an apartment/house, get a dog/cat/horse/antelope...

Posted on October 17, 2013 at 7:10 pm 0

On Ask Polly: These Tortured Intellectual Boys Are Torturing Me!

@dating dystopia OKC = Plastic Bag Man Jamboree.

Posted on October 10, 2013 at 5:34 pm 3

On Ask Polly: Should I Give In And Be The Other Woman?

LW#1 - are you sure you'd be absolutely deep-down ok with a grown-up relationship with a man who was single?

Or are you perhaps avoiding something by seeking out men who are already attached (even if you don't consciously know it) and who will never, therefore, threaten you with having to deal with someone who is exclusively in love with you?

Just a thought.

Posted on July 31, 2013 at 6:18 pm 1

On The Terrible, Fascinating World Of Hate-Blogs

"Jessica: Jezebel didn't really have a hate-blog per se when I was there (they got them after I left). But what they did have was several fringe blogs started by disgruntled commenters who had been, like, core, obsessive Jez fans who became disappointed with the direction of the site for reasons that were never entirely clear?"

I've been reading Jez since the beginning and I saw many very clear, articulate accounts of why people got disillusioned with the blog. Like that time Jezebel posted images of a woman being raped. The commenters who objected to that weren't asking for a special site dedicated to them. They were calling the site out.

Posted on April 16, 2013 at 3:23 pm 0