On Ask Polly: I Have Absolutely No Idea What I Need to Be Happy

LW, I'm weighing in down here because I think there are some resources you should check out. The first is www.marieforleo.com, she runs a site aimed a female entrepreneurs, but it also focuses a lot on spirituality, and offers real actionable steps about how to overcome self-doubt and limiting thoughts.

As usual Polly is spot on and I agree with everything she has said above, but I would add that I think you need to take a stab at getting a part time job (or full time if you find something that you are as passionate about as your painting). There is real self esteem to be gained from being a member of the workforce. Whether its making a perfect latte and getting smiles from customers, or getting a nod of approval from a manager, I think it is important for you to engage with other people in the world right now. You have a lot to offer, and a lot to gain from getting out of the house and trying something new or expanding a skill set.

You say you want to decide where to devote your energies, and I believe that getting out and doing something, anything, will help you to identify what it is you want that to be. Even if you took a job at say, an art gallery, and wound up hating it you could have some important insights while you are working there, or meet mentors who can help you in your own artistic pursuit. The point is, that no-one knows what to do with their life right out of the gate. But if you can identify a person whose life you admire you can start doing the work of finding out how they got there and taking steps in your own life to get onto a track that would lead somewhere similar. Good luck! You're gonna be great!

Posted on June 5, 2014 at 2:21 pm 0

On Manic Pixie Dream Mom

UGh this is just. So. Much. I'm just as interested in a discussion about the Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope as the next 'pinner but I think this tried to do too much. First of all the author throws Zach Braf under the bus for being 'white male and privileged' and for writing Garden State. From what I recall - a lot of people really liked Garden State - white, male, privileged, or otherwise. Secondly, the part that tried to convince me that Zooey Deschanel in 500 days of Summer is a mom figure because she shops at Ikea, and cheers for her boyfriend during karaoke is ludicrous. Everyone shops at Ikea, and if you don't cheer for your boyfriend (or your friends, or anyone else for that matter) at karaoke your just an asshole.

Posted on January 15, 2014 at 2:13 pm 0

On Ask Polly: These Tortured Intellectual Boys Are Torturing Me!

Polly, thank you so much for selecting this letter out of your mail-bag. The LW's experience really rang true for me - as I'm sure it did for lots of 'Pinners as we are all such smart interesting ladies ;) and finding guys who can not only keep up, but challenge and surprise us is not always easy.

To the LW - keep your head up. You sound great, and you have the wherewith-all to realize why your last relationship ended badly - which means you are in prime shape to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. Good luck!

Posted on October 11, 2013 at 9:30 am 2

On My Attempt To Make The Fritters I Loved As A Kid

I am fascinated by the pan in these pics! What are all those mini holes? Non of my pans have these!! How does this work?!? Can someone enlighten me?

Posted on September 24, 2012 at 12:41 pm 0

On Twenty-Seven

YES! 27 is a great year, I designated the 20-25 years to 'floating and finding' but when 26 hit, I suddenly stopped wanting to try to be a 'cooler' version of myself. I quit my job, my boyfriend, and moved closer to my family and friends. All of these choices set me up to be the happiest I've ever been and though I haven't accomplished all my goals yet, they've never felt more attainable.

Posted on August 30, 2012 at 1:17 pm 0

On Hideous Birth Control Methods Through The Ages


Posted on August 16, 2012 at 1:26 pm 0

On A Timeline Of Future Events

Looking forward to 2024!!

Posted on August 9, 2012 at 2:23 pm 0

On 'Naked Came The Stranger': The Dirtiest Book Ever Written By A Group Of Newspaper Guys

OMG Clearly there is a very vengeful, old testament style God out there. I would be so sad if Bravo inexplicably went away from me. Miss Advised is glorious. One of the girls (i don't know her name but shes 'the one who moves to LA' is the most annoying person on television. She runs around like an attention starved 13-year old and then is all 'why does no one want to date me?' while her perfectly adorable roommate picks up total babe without even trying. It's wonderful.

Posted on June 29, 2012 at 3:23 pm 0

On The Masters, As An Augusta Townie

This was a beautifully written slice of life! I am now totally envious of this tradition that you get to enjoy every year. It sounds like a classy spring break outfitted in pastel and beer (aka: my personal heaven).

Posted on April 10, 2012 at 3:55 pm 2