@themnemosyne Nope. Any dude who feels some ingrained need to pursue is objectively not for me, and I think probably objectively not for a lot of women. Just because he's got some caveman tendencies doesn't mean he can't/shouldn't suppress that shit.
This is totally irrelevant to the column, but that cemetery in the photo is one of the most beautiful places I've ever been.
@Xenu01 Yeah, number 2 has been my experience in bars more often than not, sadly, complete with aggression, name-calling, and occasional minor violence (slapping, throwing drinks, etc.). This is what happens when you repeatedly and firmly say no to a man who believes in the kind of approach Hoinsky advocates.
@blueblazes I'm thinking that's a fundamentalist/anti-birth-control household, if it's real, and she's just not mentioning it. There's no other way possible that her parents support them so she can be a stay at home mom. Which, come to think of it, if it's real it will make it much harder to get rid of him if that's what she decides.
@kim_krypto I went through the same thing when I finally, permanently left my mother's house when I was 21. Her rage was irrational and terrifying, but I left anyway.
For some reason I don't understand, a whole lot of the 18-year-old dudes in the freshman comp classes I teach were crazy about Forrest Gump last fall. They were definitely not appreciating any supposed irony, either.
@sarahpm Those conversations remind me so much of the heated discussions we had in the basement of my dorm freshman year. Grow up and learn to understand nuance, people.
I was once on an airplane with the Jared guy. At the terminal exit, we had to walk by a Subway. I giggled.
This happened to my sister with each of her four kids--tons of fillings each time, AND her teeth went crooked again, even though she had braces for something like five years when she was a kid.
@twinkiecowboy I'm childless, but the last time I had a pregnant close friend, there was one particular (mildly seedy) bar we went to now and then because it was the only place she could order a beer without people giving her death stares or actually actively intervening.
Edited to add: Her coworkers gave her endless shit about caffeine, too, despite her staunch one-soda-a-day limit.