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On Eat the Skin

My kid eats kiwis whole and I can hardly look at her when she's doing it. I told her to maybe not do it at school because surely she would become a social outcast. It just. looks. wrong.

But this has almost convinced me to try it.

Posted on September 12, 2014 at 4:10 pm 1

On Ask Polly: Should I Have This Baby?

@IBentMyWookie This is definitely an important point to make. I give one piece of advice to people, and one only: be careful who you have kids with. It will tie you to one another for life whether you like it or not. And yes, a dad who disappears and wants nothing to do with the kid for the first eight years can absolutely pop back into the picture, maybe with a sad letter full of apologies and regrets, maybe sent to the kid a week before you're about to get married to your kid's step father. Okay, maybe that won't happen to you, but it could and I am telling you, it sucks because it has to be dealt with. If you want to have the baby and you think you can keep ties severed forever, or if you want to have the baby and you're hoping it will preserve those ties...either way just try to really think long term. Be careful who you have kids with. Wishing you the strength and clarity to make the best choice for you.

Posted on March 26, 2014 at 4:15 pm 3

On I Have An Evaporated Vodka Message For You

Smart people doing cool shit at York! So HA to the bank teller 8 years ago chuckling "if you can eat with a fork you can get into York" as she cashed my student loan cheque. Jerk.

Posted on December 19, 2013 at 5:08 pm 1

On Toronto Thinks People Are Actually Giving It A Lot Of Thought

Sold on Torontulas!

Posted on November 5, 2013 at 10:18 am 1

On Ask Polly: These Tortured Intellectual Boys Are Torturing Me!

I think that some of this is solved by just plain growing up and learning to discern which qualities in a man are desirable to adult you in a real, adult relationship, and which qualities in a man were desirable to teenage you in a daydream, teenage relationship.

It seems that much of the time when women get hung up on these kinds of guys they either had a super short-lived relationship or a near-miss relationship, and they're haunted not by the reality/memory of the relationship but the idea of what might have been. Likewise, they're turned off by what they imagine to be the boring relationship and not the actually pretty awesome contentedness of dating a normal, non-Hemingway wannabe.

A great cure to stop obsessing over these types of guys is to actually be with one, for real, for a period of time. The dark, tortured routine becomes pretty tired pretty fast when you're living it and not able to romanticize away the bullshit.

Posted on October 10, 2013 at 11:48 am 5

On Ask Polly: I'm a Drunk And No One Likes Me!

Dang, the point of all of that was, YES THERAPY. If you can get to a point where you don't hate yourself, the urge to drown in drink will go away. It's possible. And you really do have to surround yourself with people who want more than to acquire another crazy drinking story for their collection of hilarious(ly sad) crazy drinking stories. Those people are just as poisonous as the drink.

Posted on August 7, 2013 at 3:07 pm 4

On Ask Polly: I'm a Drunk And No One Likes Me!

Oh man, LW1, it gets so much better when you stop drinking. I used to be juuust like you. Drink to stop feeling insecure, drink more when you realize you don't like what drinking turned you into, drink to forget the embarrassment of the night before...I know how that goes. When I met my husband, about six weeks into the relationship I got black out drunk, yelled at a girl who drunk me thought was flirting with him and capped off the night by peeing in the sink - in front of him. When he was (rightly) freaked out the next day, I defended my party lifestyle and told him I wouldn't be changing my ways for nobody. Somehow he stayed with me, and a few months down the road I was getting black out drunk at his friend's wedding, having to be carted out immediately after dinner. He took video of me slobbering, yelling drunk, and showed it to me the next day. It was humiliating, and very necessary for me to see. That girl isn't cool. She isn't fun. She's frightening to the rest of the people who know when to put down the bottle. I don't know if you'll ever be able to have a drink that doesn't become ten drinks, maybe booze is something you just have to quit forever. But it's okay. It's so much better to cut out the crazy drinking and have sober fun than it is to end up pissing in a sink full of dirty dishes. Quiet and shy are always better than drunk and running into traffic and trying to piece together the next day all the ridiculous things you did that, no, weren't hilarious at all. You're not too young to put that shit in a drawer and walk away.

Posted on August 7, 2013 at 2:49 pm 10

On A Poem By Patricia Lockwood

Maybe I could have saved myself a decade of therapy if I could have read this over and over again. So entirely perfect. Thank you.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 4:04 pm 0

On Ask Polly: Give Me One Reason Why I Shouldn't Cheat On My Wife

You know, if my husband straight up stopped having sex with me I'd be devastated. If he didn't feel like it was a problem that we stopped having sex I'd be devastated. The same way that if he stopped talking to me I'd be devastated, and if he didn't feel like it was a problem that we stopped talking I'd be devastated.

I don't think he's that terrible of a person necessarily for considering this, or wondering if it is the answer. Sex is really important, and I don't think it is fair to dismiss his needs for sex as just, you know, douchey dude is douchey. Even if you have little kids and you are busy and tired, sex is important. I know it's easier to demonize the dude. It sounds awful. Busy mom being busy parenting and he wants to get his dick wet. But...I don't know. I just don't think it's that black and white. Yeah, he needs to tell her just how serious it is, this should start absolutely start with a conversation. But sex is part of the deal. I don't think it is fair to just opt out at any point in the marriage.

I'd say we need more information. If she's crazy busy and he's not being a full partner, you're right, that's different. But, you know, you hear this all the time. Oh, if he did the dishes I'd want to have sex with him. I just wonder how often that is really the case, and how often the other person has just lost interest in sex or attraction to their partner, or they simply have very mismatched sex drives, problems not solved by any amount of dishes washed. I don't know. I get that he's easy to hate. But if he's tried to address it and she won't deal with it...she's also betraying the marriage.

Posted on July 11, 2013 at 10:04 am 8

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Dumped Me For Following My Dreams

@IBentMyWookie Well, I recognize that my choice probably looked shitty to a lot of people, too. But you know what forced me to quickly pull my life together? The realization that I wanted to keep my baby, and I was damned well going to make it work. I got a place, I got a job, I left the not great dad, and eleven years later I continue to have a lovely family and a happy life. I was 16! She is 23! I'm only saying there isn't one outcome and one outcome only, and it is really frustrating that the world writes you off if you're young and choose to keep your baby.

Posted on June 26, 2013 at 4:35 pm 1