Oh gosh, the critical voice in my head is Nina Garcia! I'm pretty sure the solution is to ignore it, though. Also it's probably really just my mother.
I don't think LW2's boyfriend is depressed. He probably just has a very low libido and a lot of hang-ups/baggage/inhibitions.
I've been LW2's boyfriend, or rather, I went through a longish period in my life when I had an aversion to sex. Getting over my fear of fixing the problem was the entire battle. I did eventually work through it, and things are better, but it took a long time. My husband deserves a medal.
There is no way you can put yourself through that agony for someone who thinks that waiting for you to dump him is the solution.
Well, that was disappointing. There probably is a nuanced, thoughtful essay to be had about the issues that this incident raises -- feminism, rape culture, "outrage culture," free speech -- but this sure wasn't it. How about an interview with Asma Assad next, I feel like the one in Vogue was just too critical and didn't really get her side of the story.
Thank you for this, fascinating! All locations should be given in relation to their distance from Cardiff. Just for a change.
OMG, Septimus dies? Spoilers! To be honest, I always forget about his part of the narrative.
@sharilyn Liked your comment to mean that I am also facing the same realization, not to mean,Yes, you should do the bleeding work already, jeez.
@NinetyNine Whoa, I had no idea about some of that stuff.
LW2: Trust me, it is entirely normal for a straight girl to spend quite a few years thinking that intercourse sounds unappealing. Don't believe this business about teenage hormones; it's not for nothing that it used to be said women don't peak sexually until their 30s. Please don't feel you have to behave a certain way, and be honest with your mom. You are going to figure it out in time, and you will be fine!
@RichardJ Since you couldn't resist the passport thing . . . Americans typically only get two weeks of annual leave a year, which makes it a lot harder to justify the jet leg of travelling across time zones, for example. Sure, there isn't really the same culture of international travel that exists in a lot of countries, but it's not like Americans can hop on an hour-long EasyJet flight to the Costa del Concrete for the same price as a nice dinner out.
This is a great piece, but ugh, I am so sorry you had to go through that, and without Jon Stewart offering you Ben and Jerry's or even Reese inviting you to Ojai.