Great piece. I love it when someone lifts the veil, so to speak, and shows what's really on the other side. Adrian Tomine's short comic collection "Scenes From an Impending Marriage" makes similarly humorous observations about what happens when you enter the world of wedding planning.
After vaguely trying to plan some sort of semi-traditional ceremony, I became overwhelmed with nausea and anxiety (see "Weddings are Emotional Reckonings") and my fiance and I went in the completely opposite direction. We had a family-only ceremony with seven guests (his parents, my mom and a couple of cool aunts and uncles) at the Chicago Cultural Center, where it costs a whopping $10 to get hitched. Then we all went and had an amazing sushi lunch. It was perfect.
These are the only truths: People are going to judge you no matter what route you take. Either they're pissed that they have to fly halfway across the country to see you exchange vows or they're miffed that they weren't invited. The one thing that you have to remember is that in spite of this, no one really gives as much of a crap about your wedding as you do, and any feelings they have -- ill or well-wishing -- are insignificant compared to their own personal concerns.
Everyone is consumed by their own personal drama, but mistakenly believes that the rest of the world is, too.
On The Eight Truths About Weddings (That No One Ever Tells You)
Great piece. I love it when someone lifts the veil, so to speak, and shows what's really on the other side. Adrian Tomine's short comic collection "Scenes From an Impending Marriage" makes similarly humorous observations about what happens when you enter the world of wedding planning.
After vaguely trying to plan some sort of semi-traditional ceremony, I became overwhelmed with nausea and anxiety (see "Weddings are Emotional Reckonings") and my fiance and I went in the completely opposite direction. We had a family-only ceremony with seven guests (his parents, my mom and a couple of cool aunts and uncles) at the Chicago Cultural Center, where it costs a whopping $10 to get hitched. Then we all went and had an amazing sushi lunch. It was perfect.
These are the only truths: People are going to judge you no matter what route you take. Either they're pissed that they have to fly halfway across the country to see you exchange vows or they're miffed that they weren't invited. The one thing that you have to remember is that in spite of this, no one really gives as much of a crap about your wedding as you do, and any feelings they have -- ill or well-wishing -- are insignificant compared to their own personal concerns.
Everyone is consumed by their own personal drama, but mistakenly believes that the rest of the world is, too.