@sigerson UGH I KNOW RITE??? ADJECTIVES SO MISANDRIST! SO MAN HATEY! DESCRIBE WORDS MAKE SIGERSON ANGRY!!!!! SMASH! SMASH!
@Anarcissie Grisly anecdotes, pls!!
Did anyone notice that the people in the last picture were yanked from National Geographic's "What People Will Look Like in 2050" article? Good Golly, I wonder if Sparks & Honey got correct copyright permissions for using those photos.
Dump him. Dump him. Dump him.
And while you're at it, find a therapist and figure out how you got to in luuuuuuurve and BFFsters 4eva in four months.
Not All Men need to stop sending me dick pics and "are you interested in married men?" messages on OKC, seriously.
I find this so irritating because while I, personally, may not have oppressed members of a minority, I can still acknowledge that, as a white American, I've benefited from living in a country that is still systemically hella racist, even if I'm not aware that it's happening at any given moment. Shrieking that I haven't personally done it doesn't mean I'm helping things any.
I feel like we get a lot of letters from people being like "but we've been together X years and we live together and he's/she's my support and blah blah!"
But...so what? It's not like you get a magical token for every year you're in a relationship or that once you pass a certain level of involvement, you can't ever extricate yourself from that person.
In fact, your reward for sticking it out another year is Another Year of This Bullshit.
Yes, having children with someone means they're going to be in your life more or less forever in some form, but the rest are logistics. If you live together, you can move out. If you own property together, you can split it up. Just because you've been! together! for! six! years! doesn't mean you're doomed to be together forever. Consider it release for time served and GTFO.
I just finished reading J.K. Rowling's The Casual Vacancy, and it has two characters in it that are basically the LW and her vampire. LW, if you're reading these comments, I'd highly recommend you checking it out.
@Anarcissie You sound really proud of being people repellant.
Hah! Every since I realized that I didn't want to be "challenged" by someone I was in a relationship with, my life became so much more peaceful. I want someone I can fall into, like a broken-down, comfortable couch, with no pointy edges.
Ehh, I had a friend like LW #2's friend. I just accepted that she'd vanish when she coupled up and reappear when they split demanding to hang out all the time. I waited a couple years and she grew out of it. She's always going to spend more time with her SO than I would with mine, but eventually she realized that our relationship was a constant she could depend on, and I had enough other friends and activities to not just be depending on her for friendship.
It's kind of an unfortunate character trait but I don't think it's a friendship-ender, unless she does something super shitty like cancel on an expensive nonrefundable vacation because of a dude.