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On The Looming Threat of "Generation Z"

Did anyone notice that the people in the last picture were yanked from National Geographic's "What People Will Look Like in 2050" article? Good Golly, I wonder if Sparks & Honey got correct copyright permissions for using those photos.

Posted on June 20, 2014 at 1:29 pm 0

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Won't Stop Raging About My Sexual History

DUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUMMMMMMMMMMMPPPPPPPPP HIIIIIIIIIIIIIIM.

Dump him. Dump him. Dump him.

And while you're at it, find a therapist and figure out how you got to in luuuuuuurve and BFFsters 4eva in four months.

Posted on June 11, 2014 at 2:28 pm 0

On The Adventures of Not All Men

Not All Men need to stop sending me dick pics and "are you interested in married men?" messages on OKC, seriously.

I find this so irritating because while I, personally, may not have oppressed members of a minority, I can still acknowledge that, as a white American, I've benefited from living in a country that is still systemically hella racist, even if I'm not aware that it's happening at any given moment. Shrieking that I haven't personally done it doesn't mean I'm helping things any.

Posted on April 29, 2014 at 4:46 pm 0

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Is Secretly Catfishing!

I feel like we get a lot of letters from people being like "but we've been together X years and we live together and he's/she's my support and blah blah!"

But...so what? It's not like you get a magical token for every year you're in a relationship or that once you pass a certain level of involvement, you can't ever extricate yourself from that person.
In fact, your reward for sticking it out another year is Another Year of This Bullshit.
Yes, having children with someone means they're going to be in your life more or less forever in some form, but the rest are logistics. If you live together, you can move out. If you own property together, you can split it up. Just because you've been! together! for! six! years! doesn't mean you're doomed to be together forever. Consider it release for time served and GTFO.

Posted on February 20, 2014 at 10:05 am 4

On Ask Polly: I Moved To A New City To Be With An Emotional Vampire

I just finished reading J.K. Rowling's The Casual Vacancy, and it has two characters in it that are basically the LW and her vampire. LW, if you're reading these comments, I'd highly recommend you checking it out.

Posted on January 30, 2014 at 11:08 am 0

On Ask Polly: These Tortured Intellectual Boys Are Torturing Me!

@Anarcissie You sound really proud of being people repellant.

Posted on October 11, 2013 at 1:26 pm 2

On Ask Polly: These Tortured Intellectual Boys Are Torturing Me!

Hah! Every since I realized that I didn't want to be "challenged" by someone I was in a relationship with, my life became so much more peaceful. I want someone I can fall into, like a broken-down, comfortable couch, with no pointy edges.

Posted on October 11, 2013 at 1:26 pm 4

On Ask Polly: My Best Friend Is A Lunatic Who Owes Me An Apology!

Ehh, I had a friend like LW #2's friend. I just accepted that she'd vanish when she coupled up and reappear when they split demanding to hang out all the time. I waited a couple years and she grew out of it. She's always going to spend more time with her SO than I would with mine, but eventually she realized that our relationship was a constant she could depend on, and I had enough other friends and activities to not just be depending on her for friendship.
It's kind of an unfortunate character trait but I don't think it's a friendship-ender, unless she does something super shitty like cancel on an expensive nonrefundable vacation because of a dude.

Posted on September 5, 2013 at 1:54 pm 0

On Ask Polly: Give Me One Reason Why I Shouldn't Cheat On My Wife

@scrooge True fact!

Here's a little story for you: a friend mine became involved with a married man who was in a very similar situation (young kids, wife disinterested in sex, yadda yadda) and they had an affair for about a year. He and his wife ended up working on their marriage and he ended the affair.

Fine and dandy, right? Except that he'd told my friend repeatedly that he'd be leaving his wife when the kids were older, etc. etc. He actually thought she'd be thrilled that he and his wife were giving it another go.

To say she was peeved at being dumped was...an understatement.

She emailed the wife. With photos.

I'm not defending what she did (either the affair or the tattle). I'm just saying, if this guy thinks he can noodle around diddling other women without any consequences, he doesn't know human nature very well. Say the mistress gets too clingy/needy/whatever and he wants to break it off? It's not going to be hard for her to find a way to contact his wife. I think my friend just googled her and found a work email.

Point being, people don't just show up when you want them to and leave when you don't want them anymore.

Posted on July 12, 2013 at 9:15 am 1

On Ask Polly: I'm Afraid To Leave My Abusive Parents' House

LW#1, you also need to take steps to protect your assets. Get a safety deposit box where you can keep your checks, important documents, etc. If your parents have any access to your bank accounts or could get access, move your money now. Stop getting paper bills at your house (get them sent to a PO Box). The sentence about them demanding her savings sent off huge klaxon warning sounds. Depression and anxiety aside (and I say this as a person with very severe clinical depression and an anxiety disorder) you must, must take steps to protect yourself. You may also want to look into finding someone who can advocate for you, either through guidance services at your school or through a counselor.

Posted on June 5, 2013 at 9:35 pm 3