@City_Dater Poor LW1 will end in debt and by laudanum following a failed attempt at millinery. Maybe they're gazing rapt at her hats?
@BoatGirl Right??? I read "Dreamy, enraptured looks" and the less charitable part of me just said "Oh, Honey. That's BOREDOM you're seeing. Because you're BORING."
@EM While I appreciate your brave stance that I'm "awful," I am not saying the man in letter two needs fixing. THIS WOMAN is seeing behavior that she KNOWS is a problem and needs to change or else she wouldn't be writing in. We are all products of terrible things we live through and have no control over, but we DO have control of how we respond as adults. If he's shutting down and having flashbacks to the point that it's affecting their personal life, then YES, this is a thing that needs to be fixed. If his past trauma is affecting their relationship it's no longer HIS problem, it's THEIR problem.
Wow, I am clearly a jerk. My gut response to BOTH these letter writers was move on and find someone to love who isn't a project or a thing that needs fixing. All relationships take work and struggle and nobody is perfect, but MAN... there is a forest of red flags for both these relationships. LW2 probably has a better chance, and yes, therapy would be a HUGE help to this situation, but still: eyes need to be WIDE open for what sexual abuse means to a long term relationship. That is a thing that leaves lasting scars that surface in some really unexpected ways. Professional help would be a huge benefit for both halves of that relationship.
@elsaschneider See, I was already obsessed with the BOOK, which I read when it first came out (I was in the 7th grade.) By the time the movie came out, I was FULL ON pathologically devoted to this film. I agree with the poster above- in 3D IMAX? That movie is EFFING TERRIFYING, even though I've seen it probably 70 times. I would credit the book with being the reason I went into molecular genetics, actually. Not to clone dinosaurs, but just the IDEA of cloning- totally blew 7th grade science nerd me away.
Thank you, Awl, for writing your Genus species name correctly. You get a gold star and shelter from my UNMITIGATED SCIENTIST IRE.
@happymisanthrope Ugh, DREAM. Gap Dream. My friend Meredith wore that all through high school and it is INEXTRICABLY tied to her in my memory.
@Brunhilde Oh my god almighty, THIS! In that bottle with the hot pink and whatever squiggly thing inside??? What is UP, sixth grade?
@Chris ZS That show, no lie, has at least 1 or 2 things each episode where I HAVE to pull the car over because I'm laughing too hard. Something about their dynamic just... ugh. HORSE PEOPLE.
So, I was reading this aloud to my husband, and when I got to the "Late Antiquity" being fashionable in the late 1990's-early 2000's bit, his exact words were "Yes, and this is why we got the movie Gladiator."
Come to think of it, it's probably why that woad-daubed Kiera Knightly version of King Arthur got made, too...