With all due respect, your husband is a jerk. Really. It's not just that he is critical of Israel, it's that he has this deep, unyielding, simplistic, vile hatred of Israel. Despite the fact that the woman he became involved with -- YOU -- used to love Israel. Had an affinity for Israel when they met. He won, you lost. He strong-armed you and you caved. No warmth, no compassion, no nuance. Just inflexibility and hatred.
And Israel's redeeming quality in his eyes? That the girls are hot. Really? Why would any woman marry a man whose only reprieve from his own energy of hatred is staring at women and making blanket generalizations about them based on their bodies? i'm just saying, he really is not marriage material. he is not the kind of guy i would recommend anyone choose to build a life with.
There is such a troubling lack of balance in your relationship that her article makes me want to cry. He comes from one end of the spectrum ideologically, and you came from the other, and you went all the way to his side and he made no compromises towards yours. Sure, summer camp is a bit of a bubble -- by definition, it's a type of utopia -- but to abandon all of her sweet memories and reject ALL of them as rubbish simply because the husband thinks so? Well, that's a form of relationship abuse. Truly. That he pulled you away from her upbringing without any softness or compassion, that you came to a place where it was "all or nothing", all of him or none of him, that you had to take a position against your sister and your parents, that, my friend, is abuse. Classic relationship abuse. Isolates her from her family, convinces her that her upbringing is all wrong, that her ideas are inferior, puts her in a position that she can't even see her sister, all this, my friend, is abuse.
He's a jerk. This essay is a sad, sad testament to a very bad marriage. I'm sorry to say.
On Life After Zionist Summer Camp
With all due respect, your husband is a jerk. Really. It's not just that he is critical of Israel, it's that he has this deep, unyielding, simplistic, vile hatred of Israel. Despite the fact that the woman he became involved with -- YOU -- used to love Israel. Had an affinity for Israel when they met. He won, you lost. He strong-armed you and you caved. No warmth, no compassion, no nuance. Just inflexibility and hatred.
And Israel's redeeming quality in his eyes? That the girls are hot. Really? Why would any woman marry a man whose only reprieve from his own energy of hatred is staring at women and making blanket generalizations about them based on their bodies? i'm just saying, he really is not marriage material. he is not the kind of guy i would recommend anyone choose to build a life with.
There is such a troubling lack of balance in your relationship that her article makes me want to cry. He comes from one end of the spectrum ideologically, and you came from the other, and you went all the way to his side and he made no compromises towards yours. Sure, summer camp is a bit of a bubble -- by definition, it's a type of utopia -- but to abandon all of her sweet memories and reject ALL of them as rubbish simply because the husband thinks so? Well, that's a form of relationship abuse. Truly. That he pulled you away from her upbringing without any softness or compassion, that you came to a place where it was "all or nothing", all of him or none of him, that you had to take a position against your sister and your parents, that, my friend, is abuse. Classic relationship abuse. Isolates her from her family, convinces her that her upbringing is all wrong, that her ideas are inferior, puts her in a position that she can't even see her sister, all this, my friend, is abuse.
He's a jerk. This essay is a sad, sad testament to a very bad marriage. I'm sorry to say.
B'vracha,
Elana