Just because some VC says "Uber, but for parking spaces!" in the lobby of a TED talk doesn't mean we need a video about it.
@lemmycaution somehow I missed this before making my comment below. Obviously I agree - I think online dating would definitely help here.
I suffer from the same paralyzing over-analysis, and the thing that really helped me was online dating. It sounds simplistic, but it really does eliminate a lot of the ambiguity about whether or not the people you're meeting and flirting with are looking to date (or at the very least, fuck) you.
@lemmycaution Good call. I think online dating would make it clear for LW that the women he is meeting are, indeed, interesting in dating him and (open to the possibility of eventually) fucking. Making lovers out of friends of 2+ years is always tricky, and that seems to be one of the problems here. But I agree with Polly, there is NOTHING WRONG OR OPPRESSIVE WITH ASKING FOR A DATE OR PHONE NUMBER. Especially at a social event that revolves around a shared hobby or interest. Lots of people attend those kind of functions because its a way to meet people TO DATE who already like doing what they do. So yes: online dating, and continue to attend social hobby things.
@Fern Reno You do know that its really insulting to insist that someone's professed sexual identity (or identity of any kind) is not actually their identity, right? Would you tell a nervous gay person who has trouble identifying and dating other gay people "well, maybe you're just not gay!" No. Don't be a jerk.
I agree. Overly analyzing things is a problem.
Maybe he should do on-line dating with the intent of finding a relationship so he does not have to deal with hitting on friends thing that he has a hangup about.
The sad thing is that people who have never been in relationships / had sex are bad at relationships/sex.
By mpb on Word Somewhat Powerful
"This Weekend" means "The End of This Week."
"Next Weekend" means "The End of Next Week."
"Next" isn't referring to the weekend as a unit separate from the week in question. It's referring to the week as a whole, and then the "end" specifies what part of the week you mean.
I have a great deal of empathy for the CS minions--they are, indeed, trapped in what must be a nonstop hell--but there is no seeming end to the absurdities. To wit:
I recently moved. I had a Comcast account. Surprisingly, despite a past and palpable ripoff that made my blood boil, I was okay with Comcast. I would have continued it at my new address.
But where I moved had no Comcast service. So I had to cancel. I couldn't renew had I wanted to. Despite this, it took me a good fifteen minutes of phone maneuvering to get out from under the Comcast grip, to the point where I was, and this is no lie, asked if I truly wanted to move where there was no Comcast service.
@Matt Buchanan Thanks, Matt. And I agree. As yet another straight, white, male reviewer, I'm obviously part of the problem, but I'm trying to find ways to mitigate (or at least investigate) that, and I'm glad to see more people in prominent places pushing this subject. For whatever it's worth, I have similar feelings about many male poets, but none are as talented or, I think, important, as Lockwood, and so I wanted to talk about her book while also thinking visibly about the reasons my take on her book was problematic--and to see if I could think and see beyond it.
@JFarmer Oh, I actually admired how honest your review was; I just found the phenomenon fairly interesting, since you clearly were not the only one feeling that way.