Now if only the Sundays would release a new album, I could pretend it was still 1993.
@Matthew Lawrence Uh. People act like this outside of NYC. All the time. At least in my town. And no, I don't live in LA.
Right on. Watching Love Boat and Fantasy Island with my babysitter was usually the highlight of my week. But Fantasy Island could be fucking scary. It often sent me and the babysitter running from the room screaming.
Y'all do know that the only reason this book is under the Classics banner is because Morrissey threatened to pull the book unless is was classified as thus, right? I think that's hilarious. He's such an egomaniac! Or maybe he has a very devious sense of humor. Both probably.
I don't know, but I love it.
@callmeprufrock You're not too anything. You're enjoying yourself, right? Having fun? Being nice? That's all that matters. You can't be too anything. Don't worry about it! But if you do worry about it...that's ok too. It's not going to destroy your life / chances for finding love.
@paddlepickle For me it was about appreciating the freedom of being single. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want. You don't have to compromise. You don't have to share a bed. You don't have to visit someone else's family (the WORST). The advantages might be different for you. What are they?
Also, you have to remind yourself that being in a relationship does not guarantee happiness. I know that's the message our culture puts out there, but it is just not true.
"But in order to find it, I think you have to prepare yourself for a life alone, and be at peace with that."
Best advice ever. That's exactly what I did a few years ago, and it was fucking life changing. Letting go of all relationship expectations was so freeing and so wonderful. Letter writer, listen to Polly. You will not regret it!
@David That is good...advice. Thanks David! If only I had read this two weeks ago, instead of badgering my HR manager about a new position, I could have asked her for advice about said new position. That would have worked much better. Damn!
@Ee Gads All the parties involved in this story seem kind of dramatic and annoying. I wouldn't want to be friends with a single one of them. I prefer my friends funny, fun and relaxed.
@M Dubz Hey, going to offer a different perspective here. I was in your position in my 20s and 30s. Finally, at 38, I was like Fuck it. I'm not going to meet anyone. Why am I wringing my hands over this? I fucking love my life and when I'm not sitting here feeling sorry for myself/wondering what's wrong with me, I have a lot of fun. Plus, a lot of my friends were in a similar situation. It took a while for me to go from THINKING this to FEELING it, but once I did? I was like, DAMN, I wish I had not WASTED my youth feeling bad about being single and pining for dudes who weren't into me/trying to force myself to date dudes I didn't really like. It was fucking magic. I had a goddamn blast and was the happiest I've ever been.
Then I met someone. But you know, conjuring that feeling of FREEDOM and JOY is not about trying to catch a lover. It's all about just enjoying your life as it is. I know it's easier said than done, but let those negative feelings go, they are holding you back. It helped me to stop dating, and stop looking--that shit never works anyway. Just be free and enjoy yourself. That's what life is about.