@Kath Barbadoro@twitter Yes, exactly. I used to be a classic overexplainer. I was 100% sure that, if I threw enough words at a problem, everybody would understand and agree with me. This is such a gendered issue, and being the explainer totally undermines you in both personal and professional settings. I have no idea whether the two are connected, but once I stopped doing this, I experienced a rather mercurial rise in my chosen profession. LW is lucky to receive this advice at 21; I didn't learn this until 30-ish.
I always had a crush on teeny tiny Lindsey, but I hated that show too much to watch on a regular basis.
@Gef the Talking Mongoose It means that I'm still searching for a community that will not be turned off by my sharp knees. Ah well.
I guess it really depends on what you mean by "better", but having been plain and also beautiful (my looks are extremely changeable, and having long hair exponentially increases my hotness), I will say that being beautiful is almost always the way to go. Even the annoyances that come with being good-looking (unwanted attention, assumptions of low intelligence and shallowness, finding it hard to fade into the background) are generally better than those that come with being considered plain (being overlooked, being assumed to be dull, knowing that people do not consider you as a sexual being, etc). Of course, it's better still when one can be taken in as a person and not reduced to a collection of features (thanks, Internet!), but that's not always possible.
@doodle_bug Your boobs ooze stuff in the late stages of pregnancy??????? Oh my god, a world of no.
How interesting! My (white) friends went door to door for Obama in 2008 in PA, and in between meeting some really polite people, ended up hearing just about every possible slur against black people. So. I would like to go door to door, but I'm really afraid of angry people, and besides I see enough of them at my job.
Also, I didn't see what was unfair in Sarah's description of Holly. Holly may be a bit of a tight ass. She may also have been having the best day ever. Who knows? What we have is one person's impression of another. We read it, and the world kept turning. Lighten up.
@deepomega Hear, hear!
I like her designation of people who are "vegan at heart." I do not choose to be a vegan, but I try to avoid engaging in the wanton or simply careless destruction of other living beings for my own benefit. I'm always on the lookout for a cute coat, and I'm definitely interested in her stuff.
@hethyrworld Which is a shame, because Toad is awesome. Yes, is. Was, is, forever.
This story is cool, and Nesbit looks to me like a cross between Leighton Meester and Minka Kelly.