From Chicago, now in Oakland, works on environmental noise studies for money, plays baseball for fun.

On Ask Polly: A Chilling Cautionary Tale About the Dangers of Getting Involved With Attached People

I guess one big difference is when people are cheating. Even if it's just talking/emotional stuff in transition, that's not serial monogamy, that's dishonesty and/or betrayal.

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 2:37 pm 1

On Ask Polly: A Chilling Cautionary Tale About the Dangers of Getting Involved With Attached People

@garlicmustardweed I am not doubting your self-assessment when I caution other people who might think they are bad people for practicing serial monogamy to not be too harsh on themselves. Finding someone who clicks with your sexuality and compliments your own personality to allow for a long-term relationship is difficult and sometimes it's confusing as to why things don't work out. "I wasn't happy", or, "We weren't a good fit" is good enough reason and doesn't make you empty. Not everything needs to be worked out. I'm not belittling your real issues that you listed, just making the point that monogamy is hard and, yes, we should all be trying our best not to hurt others and ourselves along the way. Explain your reasons for breaking up as un-harsh as possible.

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 1:34 pm 1

On Polly Asks: New York Magazine Wants Me to Write Ask Polly For Them. Should I Tell Them to Piss Off?

@KimO When writers move on from this here site to write at more lucrative positions, it could be called "awl sprawl".

Posted on August 20, 2014 at 6:02 pm 1

On Worst Man: I'm the Friend You Didn't Invite to Your Wedding

I get invited to a few weddings per year (lately) and it's no cup of tea: it's either costly and takes up my vacation time or I feel guilty about not going and not buying them gifts. Cherish your open schedule and traveling funds.

Posted on August 14, 2014 at 2:22 pm 0

On That Big Study About How the Student Debt Nightmare Is in Your Head? It's Garbage

@can't tell Yeah, which is a "large amount" when rent is 1/3 to 1/2 of your income.

Posted on June 24, 2014 at 2:20 pm 0

On Welcome to San Williamsisco

According to my observations, rent has doubled in Oakland over the last year and a half. A lot of people are getting pissed and these young rich google employees are going to get messed with.

Posted on June 16, 2014 at 4:19 pm 0

On Death to Negronis

2-parts booze (tequila or rye), 1-part Genepy, a splash of Campari, some shakes of ango, and a garnish of any citrus peel.

Posted on June 10, 2014 at 2:43 pm 0

On New Subway Line to Connect Brooklyn and Some Other Borough

Is Williamsburg up-and-coming or up-and-came? If/when that line opens, Queens will be rising.

Posted on June 10, 2014 at 12:53 pm 0

On HBO's Historical Revisionism

Mr. Show was or is airing on IFC. How can HBO hate a show that created Pit Pat: a magical pansexual nonthreatening spokes-thing?

Posted on June 6, 2014 at 12:56 pm 0

On Stop Blaming The Internet For How Horrible We All Are

I don't think that first N in "congnoscenti" is supposed to be there, but maybe I'm missing a joke.

Posted on June 4, 2014 at 12:38 pm 0