On Goats Besweatered

Modern Farmer is the most important addition to my RSS feed in the last three years.

Posted on November 26, 2013 at 9:38 pm 0

On Ask Polly: If I Dump My Needy Girlfriend, I'm Afraid I'll Ruin Her Life!

...and for the love of all that you find sacred, don't try to remain friends to help her with the breakup.

Posted on November 26, 2013 at 6:11 pm 3

On Ask Polly: I'm Dating A Girl, But I'm Falling In Love With a Man!

I do worry sometimes about the implications of his getting so mixed up with me so recently after his marriage fell apart. We've talked about this, though, as we talk about everything, at length and with complete honesty, our bullshit sensors working, and I really do trust him when he says this isn't a rebound, he wasn't expecting it, yes the timing is odd but he really wants to be with me.

Just as an FYI, I got into a relationship with someone roughly six weeks after his marriage fell apart (he was roughly your guy's age, but so was I). We went through the same analysis. Head over heels in love, talking the relationship to death (mainly in text form since we were long distance which made later parsing and analysis even more painful than usual), weird timing, but we're so sure of our feelings, friends and family thought we were going to last forever, etc. About 10 months in, after several declarations of a future together and right before I was supposed to move to his city for the sole purpose of being with him, he flew to mine and surprised dumped me in person. Turns out rebounds can be harder to identify than I previously thought.

At any rate, I do agree that you need to let your ladyfriend know what's going on ASFAP, but perhaps with the guy take a piece of good advice I heard recently: spend four seasons together first. Then see what happens.

Posted on September 25, 2013 at 6:41 pm 0

On Responses To "Rape Joke"

@jolie Ah. Well I saw the article linked in at least 10 other sites (most of them effusive about the poem), so I imagine that was just the tip of the iceberg.

Posted on August 1, 2013 at 5:28 pm 0

On Responses To "Rape Joke"

@Multiphasic @jolie, The number of comments from people with #246,000+ was pretty high. Lots and lots of new people all at once can be hard to manage.

Posted on August 1, 2013 at 4:57 pm 0

On Ask Polly: Give Me One Reason Why I Shouldn't Cheat On My Wife

I've never understood why LW#1s of the world feel like they can write out these awesome justifications to advice columnists, but can't articulate the same to their spouses.

You want to fuck around? Fine. TELL YOUR WIFE.

If that makes it less of a great idea, then maybe it's not such a great idea. Have an open marriage where all parties (including the women you're sleeping with) are aware of what's going on. Leave your spouse. Talk about the underlying issues and/or take some of the stress off your spouse as Polly suggests. But don't sleep around thinking that somehow this is saving your marriage.

Posted on July 10, 2013 at 6:43 pm 5

On American Cities I'd Prefer To See Get Blown Up In The Movies Instead of New York

@sigerson Absolutely.

Posted on June 18, 2013 at 2:54 pm 0

On Bear Video A Classic Example Of The Form

Sheesh. First bear video in awhile, and it's a doozy.

Posted on June 18, 2013 at 2:30 pm 0

On A Reminder To Those Of Us In Denial About The Death Of Google Reader: It's Dying

Still in denial.

Posted on June 7, 2013 at 1:43 pm 0

On Will TV's Best Actress Get The Big Fancy Award For Best TV Actressing?

I love this show so much. It is one of the only shows I don't let build up on my DVR because I want to know what happens next as soon as it airs. She is absolutely amazing.

Posted on June 4, 2013 at 11:34 am 0