My favorite bookstore cats are at Moby Dickens in Taos, New Mexico. They seem to always be playing in the window by the front door.
The current kitties there are Tony and Mabel (picture on website here: http://www.mobydickens.com/#!about-moby/c1enr) though my favorite kitty name ever may be their predecessor Ibid.
@Sharilyn Neidhardt I really couldn't agree more. I dated a guy I thought was My One True Love who made a couple of bad comments about my weight and never once told me that I was beautiful. (Once he told me that we'd have beautiful children because they were from me, but that's about as close as it got.) His stated reason for breaking up with me was my weight.
Fast forward to the first time I had sex with my now husband, where he said over and over and over again, "I love this body." It was supposedly a one night stand and he had NO idea that this was the perfect thing to say to me. It was honest and of no bullshit. Every now and then I'll catch him staring at me appreciatively. I know that I'm not a supermodel or even a plus sized model. But I also know that my husband thinks that I'm beautiful. And I thought that wasn't important when I was sobbing uncontrollably about my ex, but it IS important for your partner to think that you're hot.
@Olivia2.0 Nope. I'm looking forward to a week at the ranch with my family. The fights are usually about what sort of food we're making, but otherwise, it's a pretty decent time.
Sooner or later we'll make the trek to spend Christmas with my husband's family, and that will be a little more stressful, because my husband has an awkward relationship with his dad. I think there was a lot of judgment on both sides when my husband was in his 20s and 30s, but I think both of them are pretty ok with what my husband is doing with his life now.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1wCnCuA1hw My favorite Chico Hamilton, especially the latter part starting at around 7:30. I grew up listening to him.
It occurs to me that I made the same comment when you guys talked about him turning 90.
Modern Farmer is the most important addition to my RSS feed in the last three years.
...and for the love of all that you find sacred, don't try to remain friends to help her with the breakup.
I do worry sometimes about the implications of his getting so mixed up with me so recently after his marriage fell apart. We've talked about this, though, as we talk about everything, at length and with complete honesty, our bullshit sensors working, and I really do trust him when he says this isn't a rebound, he wasn't expecting it, yes the timing is odd but he really wants to be with me.
Just as an FYI, I got into a relationship with someone roughly six weeks after his marriage fell apart (he was roughly your guy's age, but so was I). We went through the same analysis. Head over heels in love, talking the relationship to death (mainly in text form since we were long distance which made later parsing and analysis even more painful than usual), weird timing, but we're so sure of our feelings, friends and family thought we were going to last forever, etc. About 10 months in, after several declarations of a future together and right before I was supposed to move to his city for the sole purpose of being with him, he flew to mine and surprised dumped me in person. Turns out rebounds can be harder to identify than I previously thought.
At any rate, I do agree that you need to let your ladyfriend know what's going on ASFAP, but perhaps with the guy take a piece of good advice I heard recently: spend four seasons together first. Then see what happens.
@jolie Ah. Well I saw the article linked in at least 10 other sites (most of them effusive about the poem), so I imagine that was just the tip of the iceberg.
@Multiphasic @jolie, The number of comments from people with #246,000+ was pretty high. Lots and lots of new people all at once can be hard to manage.
I've never understood why LW#1s of the world feel like they can write out these awesome justifications to advice columnists, but can't articulate the same to their spouses.
You want to fuck around? Fine. TELL YOUR WIFE.
If that makes it less of a great idea, then maybe it's not such a great idea. Have an open marriage where all parties (including the women you're sleeping with) are aware of what's going on. Leave your spouse. Talk about the underlying issues and/or take some of the stress off your spouse as Polly suggests. But don't sleep around thinking that somehow this is saving your marriage.