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On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Won't Stop Raging About My Sexual History

@skyslang Or given that the usual time before a first herpes outbreak is apparently about two weeks, that on his part it isn't just "perceived" infidelity? I am not a doctor (actually, this is kind of hypocritical of me given my comment above), but given that this guy has already proven himself to be sexist and a jerk and preoccupied with cheating... it's not impossible, you know?

Posted on June 11, 2014 at 12:45 pm 0

On Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Won't Stop Raging About My Sexual History

I don't know, I feel like "sexism" is a better explanation for this guy's issues (oh man, I'm sure High School Jerk would love to hear that dick-whipping-out is tantamount to having sex with someone!) than "backseat diagnosing, but don't worry guys I studied psychology this one time in college." Doesn't change the fact that LW should dump him yesterday, but there's a trend of ascribing to mental illness violent and/or crap behavior that is better ascribed to misogyny (exhibit A: Elliot Rodgers), which ends up throwing people -- specifically, women -- who struggle with mental illness under the bus while tacitly letting men off the hook. (Sorry for the mixed metaphor.) I wish that had been addressed instead of just let sit there.

Posted on June 11, 2014 at 12:10 pm 1

On Ask Polly: I Am So Jealous Of This Other Girl!

@crunchybits I know, but even the explanation doesn't really back off on it. (Like, "her need to matter to you"? That's a hell of an assumption to make -- "she pulled me aside during the wedding reception and told me, through tears, that she just wanted my boyfriend to be happy" seems to me exactly like how "Oh Jesus, this is weird for me, but I'm happy for you guys" would come through after a few drinks -- but even if it is, SO WHAT? What's wrong with wanting to feel like you matter? That seems like a pretty fundamentally human emotion. And it doesn't make someone crazy. Particularly not when the sum total of the "troublemaking" was a more or less polite comment.)

I don't know, I guess I don't see responding to "How can I deal with being jealous of this person?" with "It's okay, she is just a FUCKING CRAZY PERSON because orgasms and Angelina Jolie" as empathetic, even just as a thought experiment.

Posted on November 13, 2013 at 7:52 pm 3

On Ask Polly: I Am So Jealous Of This Other Girl!

Wait, so let me get this straight. Being drunk and being teary about an ex you probably loved and maybe made some stupid, terrible decisions about - at a wedding, where alcohol is readily available and relationship thoughts are unavoidably at the forefront - makes you A FUCKING CRAZY PERSON now? Good to know. (I'm not even going to touch the multi-orgasmic = crazy thing, no matter how much it plays dead-straight-into a lot of crap narratives about sex and mental illness. It isn't about "oh no their plight is horrible," it is about how one is wired sexually has nothing to do with how good of a person they are? It's the same principle as "if you have trouble with things in bed you're just a cold frigid unloving bitch," just in reverse.)

So if someone were to write to you, saying "It's been a year and I can't seem to get over my ex-boyfriend. I know it's wrong and I know I was at fault because I cheated, but every time I think of him I get teary. I just want him to be happy, but I feel like I threw away the love of my life. Recently I was at a wedding and I saw his new girlfriend, and it just brought all of it back, and I really tried to go out of my way to be nice and accepting of her but I was drunk and it came out drunk," the response would be "Sorry, you are a FUCKING CRAZY PERSON and also a giant stupid sad lying liar who lies, and oh by the way you are exactly like this person who is not mortal and not even human, in summary probably just die?" Because that sure seems to me like what's going on. I know you sort of back off on that later on, but... it's also there, and it's also the first thing that's mentioned, and I find it weird given that the tone of all your other columns is "experiencing emotions or sometimes making mistakes about how you express them does not make you crazy."

Posted on November 13, 2013 at 6:31 pm 3

On Passenger Somehow Not Beaten To Death For Repeatedly Singing Annoying Song

I expected this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBumgq5yVrA

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 4:48 pm 0

On Modern Love: A (Likely!) Statistical Breakdown Of The Weekly 'New York Times' Column

62% are full-time copy editors? Yeah, definitely made-up numbers.

Posted on January 17, 2013 at 5:06 pm 0

On A Brief History Of Pop Stars Dressed Like Bees

Beyonce is not pleased.


Posted on December 19, 2012 at 3:54 pm 0

On Sarah Brightman Will Finally Get To Feel That Galactic Thrill

video: still glorious

Posted on October 11, 2012 at 2:28 pm 1

On It's Like Romney and Ryan Are Trying to Make People Hate Them?

Not to be outdone by Obama doing a Reddit AMA, the Romney campaign decided to take design inspiration from Memegenerator.

Posted on September 6, 2012 at 11:57 am 0

On The Worst, Most Darkly Hilarious Thing to Ever Happen on Twitter

@blackalabama It's demonstrating how you respond: "k, Nelson."

Posted on August 31, 2012 at 10:53 am 0