Posts Tagged: Crushes

The Killer Crush: The Horror Of Teen Girls, From Columbiners To Beliebers


In eighth grade, Mary liked Leonardo DiCaprio, Emily liked Paul McCartney, and I liked Gavin Rossdale. We probably didn't say liked, though, or even loved. We were obsessed, we were crazy, we swooned, we fantasized. We liked the mall, and love was a word for grandmothers on the telephone: they loved us, they hoped to see us soon. The feelings we had were much more gigantic and upsetting. Crush was good. It implied force, and pain, and the possibility that we might not make it out the other side intact.

At the time, I was pretty sure I had every picture of Gavin Rossdale ever published taped [...]


Ask Polly: I Can't Get Over This Crush

Appearing here Wednesdays, Turning The Screw provides existential crisis counseling for the faint of heart. "Vibrant confirmations of your worst fears!"

Dear Polly,

I need your help. I'm a guy in my mid-thirties, and I have unrequited feelings for a woman I went to high school with. We talk maybe every year or two; we're not close. There was a time, in our twenties, when she might have dated me, or at least made out with me as an experiment, but that time is long past. She has since married and divorced, and is in a relationship with someone else. She has clearly moved on, and I can't. Please [...]