I'm a 26-year-old female living in NYC who has been in a serious monogamous relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and a half now. He's a supportive partner who fulfills all of my needs and I love him tremendously.
The only problem I have with our relationship is that he was previously married. I met him shortly after he left his ex, and was with him through the divorce. His marriage was an abusive one; she inflicted years of mental and emotional torment that he's still recovering from. He also still lives in the same neighborhood as his ex (I've seen her on more than one [...]
A local gay writes to say: "I need to read a blog post that teaches one how to break up with someone." Ask and you shall receive. On Fridays, at least.
The majority of gay-on-gay breakups are done through either sudden shunning or slow fade. Gays are equally good at both. That is the Level Three breakup, and it's really common, and I mean that in both senses. It's easy, frequent and kind of terrible! Everyone hates to get faded on but everyone loves to always be fading.
The Level Two breakup is a sort of horrible, confusing, awkward conversation (often over phone or IM!) about how "things [...]