"The thing was, he was a very nice man. All the men who attended the seminars were very nice men—also quite brave men, because they’d catch flack on their campuses for going to a women’s college to do a feminist seminar. And I found myself going back and forth in my mind over the question, Are these nice men, or are they oppressive? I thought I had to choose. It hadn't occurred to me that you could be both."