Monday, June 6th, 2011

Actually Awesome Things to Say to a Cancer Patient

Now that we've covered what not to say, let's talk about some winning things to say to somebody with cancer.

These are my preferences after more than 20 years as a cancer patient, then a cancer survivor, and then a cancer patient again. Clearly different things are going to bug different people. You will do the best you can because you're a nice person, and your friend with cancer will be able to tell that you are doing the best you can. Don't over-think this.

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Some Awesome Things To Say To A Cancer Patient

You've lost so much weight. You look fantastic! Thanks for noticing! My doctor says I'm malnourished.

You're strong and I know you can beat this. Are you going to be disappointed in me if I die?

I read that kelp/almonds/asparagus have magical anti-cancer properties. You should definitely eat some, then.

I know what you're going through. Your grandfather's colostomy bag does not make you an expert on my medical situation.

That reminds me of when my dog/cat/gerbil had a tumor on her leg. I'm sure that was heartbreaking for you.