Really, it is amazing: Lucinda Rosenfeld-even apart from her whole recent victim-blaming idiocy to-do-clearly has no business giving anyone advice! Here is her new advice column of three letters. In the first, she tells an advice-seeker to be silent and not express concern that a female friend is marrying a man who has sex with other guys but not his fiance. (Um!) In the second, she tells someone not to talk to a long-lost friend about the time her mother slept with her friend's father. She wraps up this hot mess by encouraging an advice-seeker to not confront a terrible friend. When the fuck is Lucinda Rosenfeld, 1952? How does she get through a day, having no idea how to behave? This is on a website for women! And this is all awful advice!
Monday, October 26, 2009
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She can start by following her own advice.
The difference, though, is that the writers are soliciting her advice, and she is presumably a disinteresting observer without a huge emotional stake in the outcome of the marriage to the gay dude or whatever. It's perfectly consistent to offer solicited advice that offering unsolicited advice is a bad idea.
Ann Landers used to answer "MYOB" to about half the questions put to her, and who could be a better advice columnist than Ann Landers?
i.e., "disinterested." Rosenfeld is both disinterested and uninteresting, which means she probably won't keep her column for long.
As an advice columnist she stinks. But if this is secretly some kind of guerilla commentary on the pathetic nature of a self-help society and the concept of asking a complete stranger for advice on how best to handle intimate issues then it is brilliant.
She could be like the Edith Zimmerman of Advice Columnists! (Except, of course, she isn't.)
She's a Slate contrarian, that one. So saucy and 'in-your-face, hippies!'.
The gals' "Did my friends care enough when I thought I had been roofied?" fiasco made me think that "friend" is to women as "team player" is to men.
She is terrible through and through. And yet people (who have important editorial positions, even in this time of there being fewer of those than ever) keep encouraging her! Maybe she throws really fun parties?
"How to slip passively through life without leaving a wake"
"If Sex and the City taught us anything, it was that many women secretly prefer the company of gay husbands to straight ones. (Fewer Super Bowl parties, more shopping expeditions, anyone?)"
GULP! how did this person get this job?
Holy crap. I was reading the victim-blaming letter and thinking that if Carrie got roofied, her BFFs would be there in 2 seconds and then stay at the hospital with her, Charlotte brushing her hair and Miranda hectoring the night nurses. Apparently Ms. Rosenfeld watched a different show than I did.
I hate to be That Girl (I'm always That Girl), but I find this incredibly telling:
"Please also note that, for many married couples, sex plays a role so minimal that laundry is always prioritized."
Yeah, that's when I hit close tab.
For me, everything changed when we got our high-efficiency frontloader, knowwhatimsayin.
Well, everything changed after 9/11.
Kids, stay away from doublex.com. It is bad for women and other living things.
HOLY SHIT MY AVATAR SHOWED UP! FUCKING AWESOME!
How long did it take?
I was screwing around with Gravatar, and wordpress.com, and wordpress.org, for like an hour this morning, and gave up around 10am, full of fail. I came back 2 hours later, and boom, the magic has happened.
Ha, I love you.
Cherrispryte, is that indeed the Warsaw city logo?
Footage from the editorial meeting: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGyuH_lOGao.
I totally watched the last 45 mins of this yesterday, on one of the 15 Showtimes you get in new york. Neither ashamed or proud.
From Lucinda to Everyone:
See that big elephant in the room? Tip toe around it.
Lucinda got it right, though, on all three. Why waste time trying to tell a friend what she not-so-deep-down already knows? Who wants to have a childhood friend get back in touch for the sole purpose of rehashing a tragedy best left in the past? And we all know confronting self-absorbed assholes is nothing but a waste of time.